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  2. wilcombebolger

    What Forum Should I be Looking For?

    I Have what I was diagnosed as "Emotionally Unstable BPD", what forum covers this disorder? Best Regards Roger
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  4. yoyogirl1986

    How to find calm in the evening

    How about some music or watch some relaxing videos on youtube, I love watching cat videos myself and I also love watching technology videos and what's in my bag videos, these help me relax or playing a game on ps4?
  5. Eagleheart

    BPD trouble

    Thanks for your suggestions yoyo girl. I am still waiting to see my case worker. It's been ages. I am managing to get by but have SH'd again, cutting the C word into my arm again. But I'm really trying not to do any more. I have started listening to music again after years of not being able to and you are right. It does help. Thanks again for replying to this thread. I really appreciate it.
  6. yoyogirl1986

    BPD trouble

    Is there someone you can to help you get through the next couple days? perhaps your Gp or go to a+e? Don't worry too much about the distractions stuff if you are not that place right now? I know the feeling well, if it helps to listen to some music or play a mindless game on your mobile, even its candy crush.
  7. yoyogirl1986

    Hi!

    So what can do help you to help you get through the next couple of days? is there a nice film you like to watch that isn't triggering you? I usually watch crime dramas or thrillers/action movie?
  8. maddy harper

    Can someone help me...please

    I’m sorry you’re feeling this way
  9. maddy harper

    Bpd traits

    I also struggle with weekends and being alone so you’re not on your own
  10. YorkshireDan

    Bpd traits

    Hello all, I was diagnosed with BPD traits about 18 months ago. For a long time I didn't want to accept it and was convinced it was aspergers but now I guess I've got to face reality. I'm a 37 year old guy and my mental health has never been great. I was diagnosed with depression at 21 and have been on and off medication since. I have had relationships but have been single now for two years. All my relatiobships wers with women who were psychologically or even physically abusive. I can't even get a date now. Last girl i dated said I'm too needy and clingy...I wanted to get married and have a family but I suppose I better give up on that. I attempted suicide about two years ago after my ex left me, but thankfully have not done so since, although the thoughts do come up from time to time. I have no friends and I live alone with no sense of hope or optimism for the future. I feel like an utter failure and that nobody could ever like me, never mind love me. I don't know what to do anymore. I don't know who I am. All I do is work (I have a good job but I live in constant fear I'll somehow lose my job, be sacked or made redundant) and I don't really have a social life or close friends. I don't want to live like this anymore. I especially struggle with weekends, the idea of spending 48 hours on a stretch alone is horrific to me. Even when I do interact with people I feel sad as inevitably they will get on with their lives without me.
  11. Saharah Blue

    BPD World Mental Health Assessment

    Emma, You can try messaging Josh the website owner, he may be able to answer your question. Have you been able to find an unofficial dx? Sah
  12. Bubbles..

    Where is everyone?

    I know that I am guilty of not logging in here but this forum used to be so busy. Would be good to get it busy again. I think it has gone dead since Josh updated the forum, I would put it back to where it was and have all posts private. I do think it might just work.
  13. BonnieJo88

    Hi!

    My name’s Bonnie. I’ll be 31 in January. I’ve been diagnosed with Major Depressive Disorder since about 18. Now, however, my new therapist says that more importantly I have Borderline Personality Disorder. I’ve never joined a support group before. This past year I’ve been in the hospital 4 times and been to a couple IOP programs. Nothing made any difference. I’ve been feeling the worst I’ve ever felt. I just don’t see anything getting any better. I guess what I’m hoping to find is someone who has felt as low as I do but was able to get stronger and actually wants to put in the work to fight to live.
  14. BonnieJo88

    Hi, Everyone! Nice to Meet You!

    My name’s Bonnie. I’ll be 31 in January. I’ve been diagnosed with Major Depressive Disorder since about 18. Now, however, my new therapist says that more importantly I have Borderline Personality Disorder. I’ve never joined a support group before. This past year I’ve been in the hospital 4 times and been to a couple IOP programs. Nothing made any difference. I’ve been feeling the worst I’ve ever felt. I just don’t see anything getting any better. I guess what I’m hoping to find is someone who has felt as low as I do but was able to get stronger and actually wants to put in the work to fight to live.
  15. Hi everyone I'm new to the website so I'm sorry if I'm posting in the wrong section or making mistakes. So I'm 39 and female. I was diagnosed with BPD 3 years ago. I'm at breaking point cos no matter how hard I try I just get so angry and verbally lash out on my partner. I feel like I'm seriously losing it and worried about self harm thoughts. Please tell how you manage cos I just can't no matter how hard I try.
  16. Emma1981

    Is a good relationship even possible with BPD?

    I don't have many friends. I am the most loyal person I know, but most of my friends just come and go. They never stay in my life for long. Don't think its necessarily BPD related, well I don't think so. I think its just the way people are nowadays with busy lives etc...although I make so much time for people myself. Now I have almost accepted that people will never love or care as much as me. So that's back to the BPD again then lol
  17. Emma1981

    Advice needed in my relationship (BPD)

    Hi, I am married, been with the same guy for 19 years. My counsellor has mentioned I may have BPD, although I am still without an 'official' diagnosis. My marriage is in difficulty due to me craving the need to be 'in love' right now. We even 'opened' up our marriage to try and accommodate this, but it has caused a lot of stress for 'us' , although 'I' do like the excitement and attention that I get, as I find it eases my emptiness and makes me 'feel'....Its very confusing though as I always want to be with the other guy, even though he's not a great person and my husband I just feel nothing for even though he is kind and supportive. Makes me feel like a REALLY bad person as what's 'right' feels 'wrong' and what's 'wrong' feels 'right' if that makes sense. But then I feel maybe its not BPD and I've just outgrown the relationship after 19 years and need to move on.... very confusing.....But yes, the newness of a relationship is intense and magical, so I understand that....although I guess after 19 years I know long term relationships do work, but I guess it depends on how easily you can deal with the reality of it. Relationships are always hard-BPD or not. Although I do know where you are coming from. xxx
  18. Hi, To cut a long story short, I have been going through a really bad time over the last 18 months. Suffering from narcissistic abuse from my mother, having to cut ties with her and my whole family, and my marriage almost breaking down. This chaotic period has caused me to have symptoms such as sexual acting out, depression and dissociation. Been seeing a counsellor for about 8 months, who started off as a marriage counsellor, but has been counselling me individually for a while. She thinks I may have BPD and has mentioned this lots of times, although she isn't qualified to diagnose. Don't want an 'official' diagnosis as I am a parent and I am worried my kids will be taken away from me or my family life will be scrutinised over my actions. Called the Mind charity and they recommended getting a qualified opinion from a BPD Specialist on the BPD World. Org website. This doesn't go on my 'records' but they are qualified enough to be able to give me their direct opinion. I cannot seem to access this on the website though??? It says to pay £35, but no link to 'buy' or pay the fee???? Has anyone done this on this site? How can I request this??? Or can anyone recommend a company/ process to give me a qualified but unofficial diagnosis??? Thanks.x
  19. Saharah Blue

    Suggestion Box

    I think you would want to message Josh about that one, I am not sure if he added anything like that as he has been upgrading the software, It is a really good idea, I think it would help people feel more connected to the site.
  20. verbena

    Suggestion Box

    Does this organization have an app for my phone?
  21. Eagleheart

    BPD trouble

    Feeling suicidal. Really triggered atm. I'm so tired of pretending that I'm coping. Sorry.
  22. Eagleheart

    Advice needed in my relationship (BPD)

    I was exactly like you in previous relationships, going from adoring them to hating the sight of them and dumping them after about 6 months. UNTIL I met my husband. Don't get me wrong, I still have times when I can't bear the sight of him. But I accept that it's not him. It's me. My BPD playing up. And I just ride out the feelings and they do pass. He is the love of my life and I worship him . He is a lovely man who is so understanding of my issues. And for that reason, we work really well together. But you must come to a place of acceptance and honesty about your BPD. If you can do that, you CAN have long term relationships. I've been with my husband for 26 years now.
  23. Hello everyone, I need some advice on how to deal with relationships. I personally fall in love quick and hard! I go from idolising someone and obsessing and doing anything I can so they wont leave. The problem is after 6 months I start to slowly despise them. This has happened in every relationship I have had. I have currently been with my boyfriend for 7 months and I am starting to dislike him and he has done nothing wrong at all and is actually amazing and understanding with me. I feel like I should stick this relationship out because I know its just my BPD going through the motions but I don't know If I will feel any different in the future? Any advise would be welcome
  24. Eagleheart

    BPD trouble

    Thank you so much for your reply. I didn't think anyone would bother answering. My cat was called Timmy. He was my very own angel. He saved my life one time. Literally. I feel so lost without him. I've had cats all my life but never before had the bond I had with Timmy. I have decided to take on an older cat that no-one wants. He will be coming to live with us this week. I don't think there will be a special bond with him but I wanted to do a nice thing, in memory of Timmy. I suppose I could phone the MH team but they are so busy they don't have anyone you can see straight away. It's a ridiculous situation.
  25. bibiddi

    BPD trouble

    Hi Eagleheart - I haven't been here in a while, but I read your post. I think when there is lots of shitty feelings flying around, they need to go somewhere. At the moment the shit is being aimed back at you. And that doesn't feel fair. I really am so sorry about your cat, what was his name? I think cats are choosy, so it must have felt wonderful to be loved by him, and have him by your side. My mental health team used to constantly be dropping or changing, exactly what we really don't need. I hope that it gets sorted soon, can you contact them to remind them you need a case worker.
  26. Disreputable

    Can someone help me...please

    Thanks...I’ve just been told that meds aren’t what is right for me. I’m not saying anything bad at all about people that do take meds, I realise they’re important to a lot of people, but my parents and I believe I need to cope differently than medications. That’s why I came onto this site; to try something new and to get help. My friends agree with me that I could actually get worse with the addition of antidepressants or stuff like that. I’m sorry I can be stubborn and it’s a big reason of why people really despise me...I’m still looking for a way to get help and I’m all honesty, I don’t believe this is working either. I’m just a special case I guess...I know I am narrow minded to my options and I guess I just know what’s good for me, right?...I want a way to vent and feel fine and I guess this was a way for me to get some stuff off of my chest for like an hour or two so thank you.
  27. Dani

    Do you..?

    Do you think of me attall? Do you wonder what might have been... Do u remember how we talked for hours...do you think if our eyes had only seen.. The beauty in a raindrop..the truth in all the lies.. Now that we are older.. could we not knit up those ties? Beauty in a photo.. money or what could be.. Things that may seem perfect ..meant nothing to you and me. So can you not forgive a girl so young many years ago.. Id just wish youd let me know..
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