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Hi folks,

Despite singing songs of joy and Chrimbo peace on my other thread, I'm well aware that lots of us are dreading the whole thing.

So!! Let's post here all sorts of:

  • 'down with Christmas' vents,
  • positive alternatives if we want to ignore the whole thing
  • encouraging, comforting words for those who are struggling
  • funny bits and bobs to get us all through
  • bah humbug! thoughts that we won't be judged on!!

If this is too much for you then please steer clear and do visit the Christmas song thread!!

If anyone wants to have 2mins of escapism from the Chrimbo madness, then please be inspired by this shite/brilliant song:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W7aPp-4z-uw

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i'm really trying to get into the spirt always have to watch a christmas carol (its a must) but seen the muppet version and nope not doing it yet lol .... will try again ..... xox

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Ok, im'a be anti... lets say the world doesn't end on the 21st....

WHY should I spend my money and time on people I rarely see, just because ITS CHRISTMAS?

I used to love xmas up until a few years ago, when I used to run round making sure I saw everyone ALL through the year, aunts, uncles cousins, friends and immediate family, it didn't seem weird then it seemed ok to buy presents for everyone and i enjoyed xmas, it felt magic still, visiting everyone breathing in the christmas air, giving receiving, spending time, coming together, season of good will and all that..

..but now, that I don't bother "running around" ... guess what? I barely see ANYONE... and that hits hard, as you have all seen with me when I'm down and/or stressed, do they call me and see if im ok? NO... did anyone visit me when i was in hospital? NO... does anyone "pop-in for a cuppa"? NO would they actually even know if i was dead? NO... so why should I go see people act all "aren't we a close family because we meet up at Christmas"...FUCK THAT.. its ALLLLLL FAKE

... give me a present and a hug and a kiss on the cheek Christmas well i would rather they cut the crap... i'll swap my next ten Christmases worth full of crap for an hour every few months of just "Time".... that's care that's love, that's family, being there ALL friggin year... not one day a year because that's what our commercialised culture dictates.

....and sick of being an after thought this year

"Where you going for christmas Lou?"

"Ah, i'm staying at home this year"

"oh, what, on your own?"

"Yeah, I can't be arsed with it"

"Oh, urmm, well, sure we could squeeze you in somewhere round here"

I say "Oh, no thanks for the offer but i'm just gonna keep it low key, celebrate with the cats, dont like going out much any-more"

I'm thinking......"NOOOOOOOOOO FUCK OFF!!!!!!!!!!..... I'm not a charity case, if a had a family i could call family i wouldn't be in this fucking position, you have your happy fake little Christmas playing happy families and I'll spend Christmas with the only person who bothers to see me all year ......ME!!!.... and that's not through bloody choice"

There, that's my anti-crimbo rant.

xx xx xx

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Me and hubby are going to have private christmas this year.Im in no mood for family drama.

Were going to watch our fave movies and eat our fave food.

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Me and hubby are going to have private christmas this year.Im in no mood for family drama.

Were going to watch our fave movies and eat our fave food.

That sounds like a perfect Christmas Lily.

xx xx xx

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I don't mind buying presents for my parents and my grandad but I wish I didn't have to buy one for my sister. my parents deserve something for putting up with me and my grandad is always asking after me. It took my sister 7-8 years to realise I was seriously ill and she still never asks after me.

I only see her 1-2 times a year, she adresses maybe 3 words to me, I don't especialy mind but she's like a distant relative. I don't know her and she doesn't know me. why is so much expected just because we have the same parents?

she is always generous about buying me presents tho so I do the same but she has told me she wouldn't have anything to do with me if we weren't related so its obviously an obligation thing. I wish she didn't feel that obligation.

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Christmas has me in funk this year too. I am trying to get my cards out today and failing miserably :( Usually even at my winter lows I can still manage that. Sure its more than this, but I don't even want to get started with the dysfunction.

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I haven't wrote 1 card out yet, Christmas annoys me what is the point in it for 1 fricking day? The whole stress?

I am worn out just thinking about it....... I have my mum-in-law and aunt staying over christmas and I really can't be arsed.

If it wasn't for the kids then I would cancel christmas altogether.

Presents, My family can piss off the way they have treated me this year, Not a chance.

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i have ignored xmas for the past 5 years

i dont give presents or cards

in fact dec 25th is just another day for me

ok i do the christmas meal thing but only cos i go away with mum and bro on organised holidays and that is part of it but it is just a slap up meal to me

don't get me wrong, i don't mind other people making a fuss of it all, just choose NOT to participate myself...

i also hate it that people you never hear from the rest of the year contact you at that time - if i mean anything to anyone, then i'd like to think i meant something to them all year not just cos it is dec 25th.

much like i love and respect my mum every day, not just on mother's day kinda thing!

you may think i am mean not doing cards and pressies, but i do cards and pressies through the year for people i care about and that is by choice cos i WANT to and NOT cos society tells me i SHOULD...

*climbs down off soapbox*

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I guess to positive to your holiday is that you spend it with your mum and brother. Do you feel like you can't count on them each year or do you they let you down sometimes?

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I guess to positive to your holiday is that you spend it with your mum and brother. Do you feel like you can't count on them each year or do you they let you down sometimes?

not at all, we are united in our mutual hatred for xmas. we don't even argue and we are a volatile family. but i think having someone else (the tour company) tell you what you are doing on each day really helps too !

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i don't think you are mean Villan. I dont think anyone should feel pressured into doing it because society expects it

luckily my aunt gives me genuine panic attacks with her agressive drunken rants so my parents won't make me see her anymore. Yay for panic attacks, I knew they had some use. But my parents still feel like they HAVE to go and see her and I think its a shame they feel like that. They don't like her and she is horrible to them (they are actually very polite to her most of the time, my dad is always is)

if its a special day why can't we all 'celebrate' in our own way? we are all different people and if that means not celebrating then that's ok.

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Starting to come round yay!

I posted all but 3 cards and even spent time with my mom picking out a beautiful fresh cut tree....smells so fragrant, really lifted my mood about the holiday.

I think it must really be about having the chance to make that genuine connection for me.

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Ive always said, if i didnt have the kids, xmas wouldnt happen. Just a commercialized religious holiday that sucks my bank dry and demands too much time, attention and energy that i am already running low on.

Not even got the bloody decs up yet, i see people with their houses all kitted out, and it doesnt even feel xmassy to me anymore. Just inconvenience.

HMMPH!

Yes, i am a grinch! So what! :P

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Was speaking to a really nice cousin yesterday, she lost her dear Dad, my Uncle, 14 days before xmas a few years ago. Apparantly in the UK it takes a week or 2 to actually bury the deceased, so My Uncles funeral was a week before xmas.

She said she had no christmas that year, she didn't want one, just spending time around family.

I never realised how much I actually did care for my Mam , even though she could be overbearing at times. And my heart is not in it this year. I do have 1 obligation, and thats to do Secret Santa to a 2 yr old doggie from a 'animals and pets' forum I frequent. Dobs has already rec her pressie, but not opened it. (not without want of trying)

So i am not putting up the tree, putting up any decorations, and will just buy in a nice dinner from Marks & Spencer this year. If I get there in time and there is anything left other than roast parsnips. Thats what happenned last year and we ended up with a halal chicken in the end, whole town sold out.

But on the upside, xmas eve last year I met my Fav comedy writer - Graham Linehan- in M&S near me- both me & younger son were buzzing off that all xmas as we watched Father ted and Alan partridge - "We met him!" The dark haired fella.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3XSL0AJJRW0

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Christmas is comin & my arse is gettin fat, i hate fuckin christmas & Santa is a twat. The credit crunch is on, & times r really hard, so u can consider this text, ur Fukin christmas card!! MERRY CHRISTMAS :)
Scroll down & you'll see Santa's Willy!!



Act your Fucking age,
"THERE IS NO SANTA"
& what do you want to see his cock for?,
WEIRDO!

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  • 2 weeks later...

Caution Big Moan:

I was doing pretty good until last night and now I am completely sick of trying to make any plans with people, let along hold the grand expectation that they could at all be festive as well. My family is crap when it comes to making plans and seeing them through or remotely working together.

Today I took my mother to the Dr. and the idea was to take her x-mas shopping afterward, but right in the middle of getting shopping or plans made my sis calls and asks for a ride home because she has gotten off work early today. We get nothing more done that to eat some soup, buy a turkey and a pair of earring and my mothers leaps at the crisis of her child being stranded. So essentially we agree to meet at mine, so they can ride back together. My mother and I arrive first and am pretty miffed, but we start getting down to planning a menu as long as we are sitting, then my sis calls and refuses to come into my apartment, instead she rather sit outside in the cold and eat a take away and make my mother feel guilty for leaving her in the cold. My mother tries to tell her to come in but she just says if my mother is going to be longer then she is going to take the train.

So of course my mothers says forget Christmas dinner and leaves, I lose it and so she stays, but we are getting nowhere now because she is pulled between two children. My sister knew I was furious, is is part of why he didn't dare come in.

I have had it today, I am up to my eyeballs in raging anger over trying to have a pleasant holiday. All of my shopping and cards are done early. The only thing I have left to do is enjoy and help others, you wouldn't think that needed to be a nightmare would you.

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Tips on Cheering up

1. When all else fails come here

2. Get it out of your system

3. Remind yourself of a time when it was good, who were you with, enjoy how special that moment was (smile)

4. buy cognac and mince pies for yourself :)

5. Get some fresh air

6. Take a step back, widen your perspective even a little helps shift the mood.

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