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On the 31st of December 2011, I had my last bet. I layed a horse called Celestial Halo and in accordance with the whims of "fate", he duly hacked up. This was by co-incidence rather than by design but as it turned out, I haven't had a bet since which is the longest I've gone without same in my entire adult life. As an individual, I have improved since then. On a second by second basis, nothing is noticeable However, on a yearly basis, I am calmer, more pragmatic and more proactive with regards to the realities of life than I have ever been. At the age of twenty nine, I expect this of myself, But with the big 3-0 looming up, I intend to build on this progress.

I shall do so by:-

>Remaining a non-gambler

>Furthering my Bosnian grammar and vocabulary.

>Eating in a manner which befits my lifestyle and physical exertions

>Improving my relations with the friends and family that have helped me over the years

>Being more "scholarly" by reading materials that I have been lost upon

>Continuing my successes in the field of academia

>Making a concerted effort to know my neighbours rather than ignorantly resenting them for their human flaws

>Seeking to dislodge my obstinate arrogance when it comes to the genuine concerns from loved ones*

*This one is probably the biggy

Those are mine, what are yours?

Sretna nova godina :)

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Good idea CWP!

That's a great list you've got there, best of luck with attaining your goals.

I've had a brief think and mine are something like:

>Like something about myself, however small and truly be proud of it.

>Try to be a better and more supportive friend, within and without this forum.

>Seriously consider my career path, what do I want to do with myself.

>Try and accept that I am currently single, accept my fears of being alone and improve myself for it.

>Get through my ever growing stack of books and games.

Good luck everyone, lets make 2013 a better year than the last.

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I'm hoping to pretty much start the New Year as i left off.

*In mid November i started going to the gym twice(ish) a week to get my fitness levels up. I want to continue this after a week long Christmas break.

*I won't be "Dieting". For me personally that word has always had negative connotations and i don't particularly eat badly either, but i do eat too much. So rather than watch everything i eat with a fine tooth comb, i will be making portion sizes slightly smaller.

*A couple of months before Christmas, i went from 0-60 in doing social activities (groups, gym, and other activities), where i found myself out of my house for the best part of weekdays. I'm hoping to jiggle everything around to make it not feel like i'm taking on too much and keep this going.

The biggest two:

*Keep continuing with my taper from benzodiazepines. I have a long way to go until complete abstinence, and it feels like one of the hardest things i've tackled (along with mental health) in my whole entire life. But i will get there at somepoint in late 2013.

*Try my utmost best to keep myself well in the face of this taper. It's been a difficult journey so far to keep my mental health in check whilst tapering. Physically it's quite hard, but, psychologically it seems so much harder, and as i drop lower it's becoming more and more difficult. But i will persevere and makesure there are many things in place to stop me becoming unwell.

Aurora :)

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lots of what I want to do is hard because it relies on other people (GPs cmht etc) to do their jobs and if that doesn't happen. My GP is very busy and trying to do the jobs of the specialists who discharged me so she's taking on extra work so it's understandable if it takes her a lot of time to get anything done. So I would like to choose resolutions where I have more control. I would like to get a flat, a therapist and a job if I'm healthy enough but if this doesn't happen that's not completely my fault.

1. Even though the flat thing is out of my control I can still try hardest with the parts of it that are in my control. So I will try to apply for flats as soon after they are advertised as I can to give me an advantage over the other people in my points band.

2. If I can't get a therapist I can still do therapy techniques on my own. Badkitteh sent me some books but my laptop doesn't recognise pdf files so I need to see if I can read them on the other computer, print them out and then read them. I mustn't be lazy.

3. Try and make some friends who live close enough for me to socialise with them, I would also like a boyfriend but that shouldn't be a resolution as it's better (even if it is lonelier) to wait a bit longer and find someone I actually like.

4. My parents are thinking about going away for a whole week next year but even if they don't they should have short holidays. I will cope with this brilliantly, cook meals for myself, make the most of every moment of my tempory grown upness and although I will be doing things my way and following my rules I will take care of their house at least as well as they do.

5. I will try to write more, contact publishers and not give into my mum's demands that I should let her read it because I know how it will make me feel. I was going to do a blog thing but I showed it to her and she made me feel so shit and stupid and boastful and unfunny I don't want to do it now. Maybe I should anyway.

6. I will try to do better at my horrible shitty job that was foisted on me. Even though I hate it and want to give it up and want to prove I'm not qualified to do it the woman who hired me still deserves my best work even if she is rude sometimes and makes impossible demands. I will also try harder to be released from the agreement (which was between her and my mum, nothing to do with me) but I shouldn't do this by laziness and not bothering. I should do it by explaining my limitations and that though she will have to pay more for someone else they will be able to do a lot more work a lot quicker than I do and they will be able to do everything she wants instead of just the things I understand.

7. I have recognised now that my emotions are often (but not always) out of proportion to what is going on. It will probably take a long time for the emotions to go away but I will try to look at everything that happens with my intelligence (well the little I've got) and work out how much emotion is reasonable and kind of separate it into 2 separate problems to be dealt with, solving the problem that cause the emotion as much as I can and calming down the excess emotion.

8. Improve on some useful household like cooking and sewing. My mum will have to help me because I'll be using her equipment so I'll need permission which will turn into her trying to do it for me but I'll try to present it to her as learning for fun rather than learning for when I'm finally free of her.

9. If the cmht give me another chance to try and get therapy I will be firmer with them. I know more about how things work now. I know things I can do to stop being discharged. And I know they are frustrating and unhelpful so I'll just get on with what I have to do and ignore the frustration they make me feel. Just because they aren't prepared to work hard for me it doesn't mean I shouldn't have to.

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1. Quit smoking 2. Cut down on drinking 3. Lose 3 stone in weight 4. Start using my gym membership! 5. Put the effort into my OU degree 6. Try to be positive Whether I'll do any of that is a different story, but I'll try!

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i have no list - i don't like putting myself under pressure...

i will however, endeavour to keep on doing my best in all i attempt to do and not to beat myself up if things go off-track cos there's always a reason for things happening, i just need to stay in the present, not fret about the past and stop worrying about the future. and hold onto the belief and trust that things WILL always work out...

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I wrote a post somewhere on what 2013 will bring but I am hoping to..........

Quit smoking.

New therapist and work hard on my goals.

Stop self harming.

Call for help whenever I need.

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> get my blood sugars under control so I can try to conceive again

> take my psychiatric medication so I can be a better wife and mother

> make more effort to spend time with my close friends

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mine is not on the 1st is that I give up smoking drinking will be stopped or cut down, smoking and drinking comes the same. save up for a holiday for the family, did that 4yrs ago. look after myself bit more, like my liver and health spoil my daughter and our family x try keep working xx im sure there is more or less, just see how the new year works.

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My main goal is to survive and recover from the operation, lose 3 stone , stay stopped smoking, try to like my body , even tho my op belly scars look like a shark bit me, and make some new friends.

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only have 2 as i dont usually make goals as i have a habit of not keeping them, head doesnt like it so to speak

here are my 2:

1) finish my health and social care course- only 4 assignments left and part way thru one of those

2) lose weight

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I have 2 new year resolutions

1. To quit smoking because my son has just referred to paediatric chest clinic for asthma.

2. To be more organised...cos I forget everything these days.

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