walker Posted September 27, 2015 Report Share Posted September 27, 2015 it is barrenmost old members have disappeared or given upthere seems endless people come here for answers to things we cannot solvetwice now I have seen posts from new members - in the 'noticeboard' section - which we are not even able to post in - so how is that happening??how do we know we are safe here anymore? pages are still very slow to loadand of course there is nothing done about any of itit is hard to come here now Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
addy2 Posted September 27, 2015 Report Share Posted September 27, 2015 I so agree which I why I no longer post, I have been so depressed and used to turn to here but now I don't. It is sad and its sad that those who ruined it haven't even tried to sort it they obviously don't care. Hugs walker xx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Data Posted September 27, 2015 Report Share Posted September 27, 2015 I agree walker. Despite all the problems I've had with this place in the past, I really miss it. I learned a lot about how to relate to other people from this forum. In the past it was a tremendous support for me. And I feel like I have contributed a lot.But its dying a death now :(. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
walker Posted September 27, 2015 Author Report Share Posted September 27, 2015 it certainly isI have been here 7 years and this is the saddest and loneliest it has ever been,like you I have learned so much hereabout relating to others, about my diagnosis, about the strength to be had in invisible but understanding friendshipswe are all in different places nowbut it is still causing me so much sadness Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Saharah Blue Posted September 28, 2015 Report Share Posted September 28, 2015 I find too that the stride I once had about blogging has become very deflated. I use to like writing it and I hope with my work that will be close to home again, I will find that place in my. My life has changed so much and I have learned to cope and open up, more than I ever have. So, I do have better skill to deal life much better, but I have taken great comfort in the just knowing this place hums along in the background.It does seem incredibly slow both in foot traffic and just loading pages from time to time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dice Posted September 28, 2015 Report Share Posted September 28, 2015 You know I am on another forum what had the same update as this place and it does NOT run slow like this, Or still have the trouble like this one does!!!... Just goes to show, If their bothered about this place, It would be fixed and not left like this... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Saharah Blue Posted September 29, 2015 Report Share Posted September 29, 2015 you make a good point Dice, we are not the only site using this software and it is meant to be competitive enough to be marketable. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
guntarded Posted September 30, 2015 Report Share Posted September 30, 2015 Hello all. I just view some posts now but as someone who has been here a good few years too I would like to offer insights.the way people communicate is evolving - the satisfaction of instant responses becoming ever more popular and validating too. Before this software upgrade I noticed traffic on here falling steeply. Many posts went unanswered or long responses were just invalidated by no further replies. To me it was taken over by the very few and always in one area. When responses didn't come within 30 minutes, a guaranteed status update would happen that incited guilt - "no one cares" etc. The many before the software upgrade had been silenced so to speak and moved elsewhere. And with bpd symptoms needing constant validation from instant responses to post I believe people have found other outlets for it. Of course this upgrade has made things worse and an apparent lack of traffic and input from ALL not just the few needy or few moderators has damaged the forum. A community has its members at heart. All of its members. Caring for all their members. Childish taunts, fights, trolls, need to throw things out of the pram for lack of responses (and we all know many topics over the years where this has happened) has meant most to concede that there's no point in posting in this "who is worse than who" environment. It it is my opinion though different to all so far but one that has been observed over time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sheeba88 Posted October 16, 2015 Report Share Posted October 16, 2015 What on earth happened to this place? I've been away for a bit and come back and it's like a graveyard. Why has everyone disappeared? Is there something we can do to get people coming back?Giving up surely shouldn't be an option!! x Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Data Posted October 16, 2015 Report Share Posted October 16, 2015 I think I'll stick around here as long as possible. I have an attachment to this place.I was a member of another forum, Talk Depression, which sadly shut down permanently. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Saharah Blue Posted October 17, 2015 Report Share Posted October 17, 2015 I plan on sticking around too. I feel at home here. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
guntarded Posted October 18, 2015 Report Share Posted October 18, 2015 me too Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jelly-bean Posted October 20, 2015 Report Share Posted October 20, 2015 im also sticking around too....... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
artemis84 Posted October 22, 2015 Report Share Posted October 22, 2015 It is now. I have been away in hospital for 3 months and now I have come home and back to this place it is practically dead. It is so sad. I really used to enjoy coming here, to get or give advice or just to be heard. I will try and stick around but I feel out of place having been away for so long anyway let alone there actually being very few people I remember still here... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tray Posted October 23, 2015 Report Share Posted October 23, 2015 now I am back, i plan to stick around... i need you all... x Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joshua Posted October 24, 2015 Report Share Posted October 24, 2015 Here as long as you all are ;) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lonelyheartemma Posted November 25, 2015 Report Share Posted November 25, 2015 It is sad to come on here and see so few posts- but also nice to see so many old friends on this thread.Maybe we could all arrange a day/time to come online when we know there will be other people there to reply? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Saharah Blue Posted December 6, 2015 Report Share Posted December 6, 2015 Sundays are my best days, I would be up for it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
specialistsinky Posted December 14, 2015 Report Share Posted December 14, 2015 But new members are increased day by day. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
x-Bliss-x Posted December 15, 2015 Report Share Posted December 15, 2015 I'd just like to pop in and say hi. Things have been pretty hectic with me and I've had a few admissions. I kind of lost touch with this place. I came on this morning though because I was feeling low and remembered that I used to find comfort in here. I'm very sad to hear that the site has taken a nosedive. Although it is nice to see some old members popping up and still trying to keep the support going. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nixie Posted April 27, 2016 Report Share Posted April 27, 2016 On 24/10/2015 at 11:00 PM, Joshua said: Here as long as you all are Thank you Joshua. You have no idea how much of a safety net this place is/has been over the years for so many people. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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