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Kitty people are simply expressing their opinion not attacking you...............they are yawning at the topic and bored with the topic not with YOU. You on the other hand are calling them;something stupid thats not right. I realize there is room for chitchat on the forum and so its ok but I do wonder;are there not more important things to discuss then points? Lilly

i'll let you know if i find out lol.....i am so confused It's a reputation thing i think ok thanks for letting me know for that you get a point lol

i'll let you know if i find out lol.....i am so confused It's a reputation thing i think ;)

Triggers are often mentioned on these forums and people frequently request that trigger notices are made clear. The issue with this is none of us know exactly what may trigger someone or why. This is a mental health forum and people cannot be expected to label each of their posts with ‘trigger’ for the fear it may spark a response in someone. In knowing the likely content of such a forum and the background of many people who suffer with mental health issues caution should be taken when viewing any topic/post. Sadly triggers and their effects are the responsibility of the person and to be worked through however you feel it appropriate. This is not to say that people should stop labelling their posts as potentially triggering (Just that its not compulsory) just a note to clarify the position of this forum.

Under every post there is green button with a plus on it and a red button with minus on it,if you think a post is good feedback you can press the green one,if you think its bad somehow you can click the red one. You have a total of ten points(plus or minus) to give a day. Lilly

saying yawn and asking if allthis boring stuff is going on makes me feel small and stupid :angry:

for me - sometimes i write about stuff people dont really understand and so a hug may not be the right response... in that case it is nice to have the plus button cos that kinda says "i read, but i dont know how to reply, but i care" and also remember that some people simply dont like "brackety" hugs... i also think is useful when someone replies to someone else's post and what they say is useful to you, but you dont want to hijack the post with your own stuff... i also use them when someone has gone out of their way to do something for me... like when sassy started the "chips new car" thread thingie the other day... well... thats how i see it anyways :)

can't wait til this all dies down it's getting soooooo boring <_<

I think sometimes people find it hard to reply but want to let others know that they're thinking about them regardless and hugs and the point system help with this. Dunno bout anyone else but i like getting hugs. Better than getting no reply at all.

again kitty ur missing a slight point, points is given for maybe having a good day or what, im not trying to say where u put them, but i cant see lilly or josh changing it. Its all about if that post was influential and helped. Guess u know this, so just work with what u have hun. sry if this is not what ur looking for, but really work on posting and replying and what u as peer person can offer?

kitty, u seem stuck about the points again? scoring points aint the all on the forum, its about getting on with people and working on ourselves. try not to let the points score become ur main reason and all. Me i dont give a crap about the points, i said what i thought about it when it first came out. You have certain amount of points, now just be happy with that hun. Hope ur allright, u seem a bit hyper today? xx

Think you get 10 per day...to do with as you please!!! People were either givin friends multiple points on posts or giving negatives on people they didn't agree with. Think I'm right...I'm sure someone will correct me!!!

people were misusing them. so restricted use.

Besides having too many personal issues to list, I have one big social problem that causes me big problems. Although I can cope alone, I can't cope when I am with people I can't cope at all. My head is always empty and this is a problem when I am in social surroundings. People just don't gel with me because I my head is empty, they are also repulsed by me because I am ugly. I am happy to sit there and say nothing but when it comes to wanting to form relationships I simply have nothing inside me that I can use to gain friends or form relationships, to cut a long story short I am Boring and there is nothing I can do about it. I have no natural abilities when it comes to socializing and I cannot learn how to become social either (please don't tell me I can learn because I assure you I cannot, I am 20 and ever since I was a little kid I would watch how other people manage and behave in social situations and I would be baffled at how they do it, but for them it is easy because they are just themselves, but me being 'just myself' doesn't work and I am stuck) :( On top of this I have extremely low self esteem but to have a partner/girlfriend is my dream that most people take for granted. I am so upset :(

Good god is the boring points malarkey STILL going on? **fedup! congrats self on use of word 'malarkey' ** **fedup! pisses self off for actually posting on this topic **

*yawn*

The points system only serves to provide the forum with insecurity, unwarrented popularity contests, half arsed (((hugs))), cliqey shenanigans and grueling threads like this. Is it really imperative for the survival/progression of this forum that this decidedly flawed system remains? Just wondering.