Peregrine Posted January 24, 2011 Report Share Posted January 24, 2011 Can you send bibiddi a PM? That way you can make sure he/she gets it asap they log on? it's alreadcy been sugested and he had a less than productive reply. Michael Okay, thanks, must have got lost amongst the lines Sorry for double, Octavian10. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Octavian10 Posted January 25, 2011 Author Report Share Posted January 25, 2011 No problem. Now that I have allegedly really broken the membership rules. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fireflies Posted January 25, 2011 Report Share Posted January 25, 2011 I keep wondering if this thread will ever get as long as the word association game. Michael. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Octavian10 Posted January 26, 2011 Author Report Share Posted January 26, 2011 This is not a game. I am in real pain. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Octavian10 Posted January 26, 2011 Author Report Share Posted January 26, 2011 Thanks. And the other thing I wanted to mention was that I am not allowed to blog and cannot enter the chat-room. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dibley Posted January 26, 2011 Report Share Posted January 26, 2011 Thanks. And the other thing I wanted to mention was that I am not allowed to blog and cannot enter the chat-room. Because you're not a paying member. If you go to the bottom of the main page, everyone that name is in black, cannot blog or enter chat room. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jam-parker Posted January 26, 2011 Report Share Posted January 26, 2011 Thanks. And the other thing I wanted to mention was that I am not allowed to blog and cannot enter the chat-room. Because you're not a paying member. If you go to the bottom of the main page, everyone that name is in black, cannot blog or enter chat room. It is a limitation I have experienced because I used to put a lot into my blog, and I was not aware of the differences to members. It is £1 per month and there are longer term options for less. This is not an advert for the site and I have no affiliation to it I am a paying member only. It is upto you to choose how to best utilise this place. Jamie Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Octavian10 Posted January 27, 2011 Author Report Share Posted January 27, 2011 What is the guarantee if ( and when ) I became a paying member, I would not be banned? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fireflies Posted January 27, 2011 Report Share Posted January 27, 2011 Well if ya don't break the rules, guarenteed you won't be banned. Michael. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Octavian10 Posted January 27, 2011 Author Report Share Posted January 27, 2011 Well if ya don't break the rules, guarenteed you won't be banned. Michael. Yes but Michael I have never broken rule number 7. It was a violation invented in retrospect. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maize Posted January 27, 2011 Report Share Posted January 27, 2011 Octavian, you crack me up sometimes, but in a good way. :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fireflies Posted January 27, 2011 Report Share Posted January 27, 2011 Dude can't you just drop it and move on? The rest of us are tryin to. Michael. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Octavian10 Posted January 27, 2011 Author Report Share Posted January 27, 2011 Dude can't you just drop it and move on? The rest of us are tryin to. Michael. I think people just do not want me to move on here. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
boobsticle Posted January 27, 2011 Report Share Posted January 27, 2011 What is the guarantee if ( and when ) I became a paying member, I would not be banned? All members, paying or not, have to abide by the membership rules and are given the same treatment with regards to bans and suspensions. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Octavian10 Posted January 28, 2011 Author Report Share Posted January 28, 2011 I am reluctant to post here. I do not know when I will be banned or suspended on a whim. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fireflies Posted January 28, 2011 Report Share Posted January 28, 2011 We are relucatant to post also for diff reasons. Just post and not worry about it. Michael. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Octavian10 Posted January 28, 2011 Author Report Share Posted January 28, 2011 And what about when my posts become invisibled and I get threatened by control-freaks? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fireflies Posted January 28, 2011 Report Share Posted January 28, 2011 Could try moving on and trying not to repeat what ever it was that caused it to be moderated. Michael. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Octavian10 Posted January 29, 2011 Author Report Share Posted January 29, 2011 I am long-term depressed. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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BimoUK Posted January 29, 2011 Report Share Posted January 29, 2011 Octavian I can't help but think you somehow feel you are the only person here suffering from MH issues and also that you're the only person here who ever gets moderated. I personally suffer from depression and I'm fairly certain a mild PD, though that is undiagnosed. In my time here I have had statuses locked and posts removed because they violated the rules clearly stated. We're all human here and sometimes we're going to make mistakes and break rules and it's the moderators jobs to ensure that this is rectified in order to reduce the risk of it causing any harm. Just because a moderator removes a post it is not a personal attack, just as warnings and bans for repeated disregard for the rules are not. This forum is a place for us to come and talk to one another about EACH OTHERS problems, victories, grievances, celebrations. I still have yet to see you making any attempt at posting on any threads other than your own. Why is it you feel we owe you all this undivided attention yet you are unwilling to offer the same? You aren't the only one here hurting, we all are in one way or another. Perhaps if you focussed some of your energy into making friends and assisting other people you may find that some of the answers you have been looking for come to you in ways they won't whilst you remain stuck in this mindset. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Octavian10 Posted January 29, 2011 Author Report Share Posted January 29, 2011 In my time here I have had statuses locked and posts removed because they violated the rules clearly stated. I have not violated any rules in my posts. I have proved that I have been victimised by the moderators nevertheless. We're all human here and sometimes we're going to make mistakes and break rules I am not sure whether this is the royal 'we' but I think you can only speak for yourself and not me in this condescending manner. and it's the moderators jobs to ensure that this is rectified in order to reduce the risk of it causing any harm. Just because a moderator removes a post it is not a personal attack, just as warnings and bans for repeated disregard for the rules are not. I have proved on my other thread that the posts that Arrakis removed were not violating any rules. Instead Arrakis ended up quoting the wrong set of rules to me. Moreover I have also been told that given that there are two warnings on my account, I will be banned if I receive a third warning. Moreover your admission that you have managed to stay on this board despite serial breaches of the rules suggests that the moderation on this forum is not even (across races). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BimoUK Posted January 29, 2011 Report Share Posted January 29, 2011 Once again your bizarre logic comes to the fore. 1. I assume you ARE human, in which case you will INEVITABLY make mistakes in your life. This is not condescending, merely an unavoidable fact. 2. I am not going to point out the rules you have breached, that has been done enough, you just refuse to accept your mistake. 3. I have not made "serial breaches" of the rules, I was simply saying that, in my time here I have done so on occassion and I accepted the repercussions. I think you'll find when you stop being so argumentative and and downright rude and when you stop making everything about you, you'll find much more acceptance and assistance here. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jam-parker Posted January 29, 2011 Report Share Posted January 29, 2011 In my time here I have had statuses locked and posts removed because they violated the rules clearly stated. I have not violated any rules in my posts. I have proved that I have been victimised by the moderators nevertheless. We're all human here and sometimes we're going to make mistakes and break rules I am not sure whether this is the royal 'we' but I think you can only speak for yourself and not me in this condescending manner. and it's the moderators jobs to ensure that this is rectified in order to reduce the risk of it causing any harm. Just because a moderator removes a post it is not a personal attack, just as warnings and bans for repeated disregard for the rules are not. I have proved on my other thread that the posts that Arrakis removed were not violating any rules. Instead Arrakis ended up quoting the wrong set of rules to me. Moreover I have also been told that given that there are two warnings on my account, I will be banned if I receive a third warning. Moreover your admission that you have managed to stay on this board despite serial breaches of the rules suggests that the moderation on this forum is not even (across races). Why did you choose your name? Is it anything to do with Memento mori? Edit- If you want to know why I ask, my answer is still Curiosity. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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