Psychiatrists View Of Bpd;

[ramfan007]

I went through the seven key indicators of BPD when I was diagnosed and ticked 6 out of 7 (anger being the one I didnt think applied), I am not a partucuarly angry person in fact I am the opposit. But thinking back having read the replys above, I can remember punching holes in the wall, smashing things in anger and sudden outbursts of intense rage, I never directed these to anyone else only inanimate objects and myself. So I probably do count under that indicator, but think I have got it under control. YES IM CURED - (well I wish)l

[OL1K]

I think it is what we may present with. I have a very unstable sense of self and self identity problems. I used to be veryangry but over the years as I have stabilised I have calmed down.

It may be perceived as negative but if you come across with it then it is fact.

The good news is that many issues do improve over time. I was able to stop the self harm ehaviour completely, I also stopped having affect strms where anger just took over completely. That for me has been a major marker in the recovery process for me. I am fortnateto ahve a good psych who specialises in PD and is empathic but he made me laugh as he said now don't be angry I think you arefar more dependent than borderline ....I said you never said hesaid as you lose BPD traits over time I see more and more dependent traits in you wanting to be looked after. However i hae core dborderline features like worrying about abandonemnt and impulsivity problems which although are much better still I have major difficulty with. It is very painful for me and I accept the BPD as someone said earlier i live it.

Instead of worrying about dagnostic criteria I think it s better to work on shifting the bad attitude ofthe profession many of whom still believe BPD is untreatable or tetable just wth pills. Not so and we need to educate them.

DBT, long term CBT, Solution Focussed Therapy, Schema Therapy,Mentalization based Therapy , psychodynamic work have all been shown to help a greatdeal and help people move on.

Take care

Fenella

[Rabidhamster87]

I get very angry over little things and even though everyone who meets me says I'm sweet and kind and good, I have always felt bad and evil. I remember feeling this way when I was in elementary school. I felt guilty for years over something that was beyond my control. I still feel guilty about it and I can't even remember exactly what happened.

I was just wondering... it's kind of off topic, but when I fly off the handle it's always with someone who's close to me. Very rarely will I show that side of myself to someone that I don't know well. Is anyone else like that?

Antari, I love your quotes in your signature! and the photo ;D

[Bemused_Oddity]

I get very angry over little things and even though everyone who meets me says I'm sweet and kind and good, I have always felt bad and evil. I remember feeling this way when I was in elementary school. I felt guilty for years over something that was beyond my control. I still feel guilty about it and I can't even remember exactly what happened.

I was just wondering... it's kind of off topic, but when I fly off the handle it's always with someone who's close to me. Very rarely will I show that side of myself to someone that I don't know well. Is anyone else like that?

Antari, I love your quotes in your signature! and the photo ;D

The same with me. When I "go off", it's usually at someone very close to me. Someone I love. One thing my mom used to always say was, "why are you talking to me like that.....I bet you don't talk to your friends that way." Of course mom got the brunt of it because she was more than just a friend. She's my mom & I love her. The phrase "we always hurt the ones we love", comes into play here. It's more like a motto, rather than a simple phrase, for those of us with BPD. :(

[slimfit]

Anger for me can be a passive defensive measure, or aggressive defensive. Either way I am protecting myself from further disruption or hurt of emotion. However, nornally ends up worse than the initial situation, with the guilt bit following. As I get older my time spent being angered with things and people is becoming a lot less. Having been through the cycles of anger, frustration and back round ten times, each time I am a little tired and seem to bypass now what I know will affect me negatively.