rachel100 Posted November 16, 2007 Report Share Posted November 16, 2007 Hi everyoneRecently I started a new job with the 'normal people'!! I have oldish scars on my arms including the word DIE and am dreading the moment when I am asked what are they and worse maybe directly asked if they are from SH.I wear long sleeves to work to cover them, but have to pull sleeves up to do dishes or help bath the residents, so cannot keep them covered all the time.What do you do?How do you feel?What have you been asked?What do you say? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scarletgal Posted November 16, 2007 Report Share Posted November 16, 2007 Just say " that was in anotherlife".... and dont answer any other questions.you would be suprised just how LOUD silence can sound in the right situation. I was a nurse in another life, so trust me when I say that. Peoplewill leave you alone and you will either be mysteroous, or friendly and either way it will fade fast. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vorpalblade Posted November 16, 2007 Report Share Posted November 16, 2007 i dont get your Poll Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rachel100 Posted November 16, 2007 Author Report Share Posted November 16, 2007 Yeah I messed up the poll bit, so if you would like to add something just post. Sorry Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kay Posted November 17, 2007 Report Share Posted November 17, 2007 Im asked about mine occasionally. I tell people the truth. They were self inflected. If they dont want to like me because of them thats there issue. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tripper Posted November 17, 2007 Report Share Posted November 17, 2007 The only people who ask are generally people who guess anyway. My scars are pretty well hidden. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Warrior Princess Posted November 17, 2007 Report Share Posted November 17, 2007 Hi everyoneRecently I started a new job with the 'normal people'!! I have oldish scars on my arms including the word DIE and am dreading the moment when I am asked what are they and worse maybe directly asked if they are from SH.I wear long sleeves to work to cover them, but have to pull sleeves up to do dishes or help bath the residents, so cannot keep them covered all the time.What do you do?How do you feel?What have you been asked?What do you say?I cover up as much as possible but yeah there are times you have to pull up your sleeves.I've had people ask me "was that a burn?" (it was) and I just said "yes" and pulled my sleeve back down.I've also said "yes but it's healed now" or "yes but it';s no longer an issue"If they ask "how did you do that" I say "I cut myself" (people usually don't think it's deliberate.) or Injured myself or "I fell" (which isn't far from the truth I did fall from grace). or ive said "Oh me being a silly idiot" (once to a nurse) or other things like "a moment of anxiety" (if I trust the person with that info)but if I really don't want them to know anything I just say "I fell" or "I slipped" leaving out the words (with a knife) and leave it at that. if they pry for more questions I say "I would rather not discuss it" and people DO leave you alone.if they say "what's that" I say a scar and pull down my sleeve.I've had one person remark on an obvious self harm with shock and surprise which made me quite uncomfortable but I just remained silent while they expressed thier shock to me.silence really is golden.paine. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dpb Posted November 17, 2007 Report Share Posted November 17, 2007 I say I fell out of a prickly tree, or something to that effect. If they carry on asking then I distract till they get bored. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Marchmadness Posted November 18, 2007 Report Share Posted November 18, 2007 Remember this line:Why would you ask such a personal question........pausethen ask when was the last time you had sex!!!!!!!Hey it shuts them up.March Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fredy Posted November 21, 2007 Report Share Posted November 21, 2007 I just say I cut myself, or burnt myself depending on which one it is. Which is the truth. I've never been asked for more detail than that and wouldn't say if asked. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vorpalblade Posted November 21, 2007 Report Share Posted November 21, 2007 if an adult asks i just tell teh truth, if a kid asks (which has only happened twice) i make up some weird and wonderful story Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
beamfrostold Posted November 22, 2007 Report Share Posted November 22, 2007 luckly i dont really have scars on show as i avoid arms pretty much at all costs. However when i have done it on arm i have blamed the cats (sclaw clipping day) or that im a clumsy bugger (aint far from truth and anyone who asks will know that) But yeah the gernal i cut myself or burnt myself works, its truth without being whole truth. People dont tend to follow it up with but how did you cut yourself. They tend to think its accident and be done with it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lucy Posted November 22, 2007 Report Share Posted November 22, 2007 I tell people the truth. They were self inflected. If they dont want to like me because of them thats there issue.smae here Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
colourfulcarly Posted November 22, 2007 Report Share Posted November 22, 2007 i always wear long sleeves so don't come across this situation much and if i have to wear short sleeves i have some camouflage stuff which i put on and people don't tend to notice but when someone has asked i usually say its a long story and leave it at that they don't tend to ask anything after that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kib0ne Posted January 11, 2008 Report Share Posted January 11, 2008 if an adult asks i just tell teh truth, if a kid asks (which has only happened twice) i make up some weird and wonderful storyI tend to do it the other way around. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hopeless Posted January 11, 2008 Report Share Posted January 11, 2008 I wear long sleveseven if im like washing dishes. I just let my sleves get wet.last time I was asked about my scars I didnt actually know what to sayit was so embarsingI was like ummmmmmmmand then walked off :unsure: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nightvision Posted January 11, 2008 Report Share Posted January 11, 2008 I've been lucky, the majority of people who have spotted my scars react by pulling up their sleeves and showing me THEIRS.I actually got chucked off a teaching degree for self-harming. That was horrible discrimination and I wish I'd fought more. They told me i might be a danger to children FFS. It's all because of the Clothier report - the report that was produced after Nurse Beverly Allitt killed those kids in hospital. Because SHE self-harmed the government recommended that those who self-harm should not be teachers or nurses.On the rare occasions people want to know about them, I say they are associated with a bad memory, a non-specific accident and I don't want to talk about it. We are all allowed some measure of privacy after all.There's a hell of a lot of self-harm in the music scene. Show me a singer songwriter and 75% have some kind of self-harm history. Self harm in the form of words must be very tricky to hide - say you used to be a Punk or something! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kib0ne Posted January 11, 2008 Report Share Posted January 11, 2008 That's disgusting, how long ago was that? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
InnerPeace Posted January 11, 2008 Report Share Posted January 11, 2008 I haven't been asked for a long time but I would tell people they were caused by a cat. I've always worked in a professional environment so when I struggled I would self harm mentally rather than physically. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nightvision Posted January 11, 2008 Report Share Posted January 11, 2008 That's disgusting, how long ago was that?1995 - before princess Di helped re-educate people about it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kib0ne Posted January 11, 2008 Report Share Posted January 11, 2008 1995 - before princess Di helped re-educate people about it.OMG I love Princess Di, I want a portrait tattoo of her!!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
georgeben2 Posted January 11, 2008 Report Share Posted January 11, 2008 not much advice mine are really bad(need orerations 8 times) but not self harmed with cutting for 7 years the scars are bad but have faded if you no longer sh ur gp can refer u for camoflage make up if u r sheer cover make up completely covers and is water proofbit hard to apply but when u r used to it takes 2 min Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Warrior Princess Posted January 11, 2008 Report Share Posted January 11, 2008 I've thought about saying mine were surgeries to remove skin cancer but I hate to lie....I just wear long sleeves and short around the house only.PW. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tray Posted January 11, 2008 Report Share Posted January 11, 2008 I haven't been asked for a long time but I would tell people they were caused by a cat. I've always worked in a professional environment so when I struggled I would self harm mentally rather than physically.i also use the cat one, my poor little Bailey gets the blame!!!only a few people know the truth, easier that way Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
InterruptedHappiness Posted January 11, 2008 Report Share Posted January 11, 2008 It was quite sad my little 11 yr old brother walked into my bedroom n saw my leg. he asked me what had happened n I was so upset he'd seen it I said. It doesn't matter.I couldn't even make up a story I was so shocked. When people ask me I usually say it doesn't matter or I dont wanna talk about it cause I dont believe it is their business to know. I wont go swimming anymore although I loved it because of my legs. Its shameful when people look but Im not usually ashamed of it until people stare n make me feel abnormal. x Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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