Katherine Posted February 4, 2005 Author Report Share Posted February 4, 2005 and I'm uncompassionate and uncaring of men. well, sod it, I've been hurt, badly, and there are reasons for the way I'm am. but I'm just not normal. I'm probably the only 34 year old in the whole of London. but anyway I'm ugly and unstable and Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Katherine Posted February 4, 2005 Author Report Share Posted February 4, 2005 I don't feel safe here. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LadyMacbeth Posted February 4, 2005 Report Share Posted February 4, 2005 Honey, you are a compassionate person. You are not unstable at all. Please stop crying honey...don't beat yourself up. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Katherine Posted February 4, 2005 Author Report Share Posted February 4, 2005 and perhaps its because I might hurt a man that I keep away from them so I don't hurt their feelings. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LadyMacbeth Posted February 4, 2005 Report Share Posted February 4, 2005 You know we all care for you here. I know you have a lot of potential and a great person and I just don't want to see you scared of life because of what has happened to you in the past. Thats all. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Katherine Posted February 4, 2005 Author Report Share Posted February 4, 2005 you said it lady m "you are not a compassionate person." true. I hate myself, or that part of me. perhaps I just want unlimited compassion for myself, for all those hurt years. and the scars Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
paddypotty Posted February 4, 2005 Report Share Posted February 4, 2005 Firstly Kari I understand where you are and I still maintain do what is best for you . Other than that can I say I am not a man hater just a hater of some of the men who really hurt me,I chose to keep my distance because its right for me. I have known some really good men,Ididnt mean to lump all men as bad. I have known a variety of good men and women likewise I have known some shits. I dont know if I will ever be in an adult relationship again,based on past experience I dont know if I have the courage. I guess we all base our decisions on our own experiences. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LadyMacbeth Posted February 4, 2005 Report Share Posted February 4, 2005 I misspelled the word. I apologoize I just fixed it. I hope you would not think I woudl intentionally say anything mean to you. You know I am not like that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Katherine Posted February 4, 2005 Author Report Share Posted February 4, 2005 that helps that you explained it like that., lady m. oh god I'm just a mess. to cry about this is good but it hurts, it hurts it hurts. scared of life-that's me, all over. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LadyMacbeth Posted February 4, 2005 Report Share Posted February 4, 2005 What hurts? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Katherine Posted February 4, 2005 Author Report Share Posted February 4, 2005 thanks....and pp too--thanks.... thanks for staying with me. Its a very isolating and alone feeling. I'm a bit calmer now, for now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
paddypotty Posted February 4, 2005 Report Share Posted February 4, 2005 Kari you are compassionate definately. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Katherine Posted February 4, 2005 Author Report Share Posted February 4, 2005 what hurts? I'm not sure????feeling trapped-by past wounds that are now scars.. it hurts to feel scared of being hurt all the time. it hurts to be less than a full adult human being. it hurts to think I might die still never having had sex or a relationship. but I want to be safe. feeling safe, hidden away and safe from prying eyes is better that fearing hurt and abuse and entanglement. and it hurts to 'wash my wounds in public' and it hurts that Josh and the other guys on this site might be laughing about me behind my back. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Katherine Posted February 4, 2005 Author Report Share Posted February 4, 2005 thanks ((((paddypotty)))) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
paddypotty Posted February 4, 2005 Report Share Posted February 4, 2005 Just carry on exploring your feelings,I havent got that far,lonliness is horrible,feel that frequently,Take care. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LadyMacbeth Posted February 4, 2005 Report Share Posted February 4, 2005 No one is laughing at you. I can see where you are coming from. Maybe by conquering your fears you can get through this you know. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
verbena Posted February 4, 2005 Report Share Posted February 4, 2005 I try never to post mean things just to be mean. I do however, sometimes post things that hurt, and that make you and me question...I post unpopular things. I don't always join in consoling because I think it's sometimes good to let the hurt out, and if you quench it, it goes down but doesn't go away. XXX Ann Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
paddypotty Posted February 4, 2005 Report Share Posted February 4, 2005 Being safe is the most importent thing,I doubt if anybody here thinks any less of you for feeling as you do. For now staying within your own zone is right for you. Verbena is right ,there are surely some nice men in this world who have been hurt and likewise there are women in the same position,why else would we have sites like this.Stay strong. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LadyMacbeth Posted February 4, 2005 Report Share Posted February 4, 2005 Yes...but if you hide in your own bubble for too long it can create more hurt don't you agree? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Katherine Posted February 4, 2005 Author Report Share Posted February 4, 2005 thanks Ver, I understand, and it was good to cry...hurts though...a spoonful of sugar with the med'd be nice though, if you get what I mean... Lady M. Thanks, but how do you know none of them are laughing? DD visited the thread and then went away again....etc.... And thanks, pp. karie Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Katherine Posted February 4, 2005 Author Report Share Posted February 4, 2005 yes, staying in bubble 4ever can create more hurt....just need one little step at a time... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LadyMacbeth Posted February 4, 2005 Report Share Posted February 4, 2005 You should not give a toss what peple think of you. People look at my posts then leave...people just don't know what to say. But, you know that we care for you and thats what counts. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LadyMacbeth Posted February 4, 2005 Report Share Posted February 4, 2005 YOu are right K...one step at a time. You will get there. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
verbena Posted February 4, 2005 Report Share Posted February 4, 2005 I suppose that is best. Lots of little tiny steps add up. XXX Ann Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
paddypotty Posted February 4, 2005 Report Share Posted February 4, 2005 I like my bubble,I can burst it when Im ready,its my choice which is cool,backing away from men has maybe prevented me from knowing more positive things in my life but it also stopped me from going insane,Im doing the small small small baby steps,it would be nice to think somewhere over the rainbow I would meet someone who could make me happy and that I could return the favour. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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