Soo I Fancy This Girlie

[hummm_mabbe]

K so have known her for a while, and she was dating this other guy, who she always moaned about when I saw her about. Yeh. So anyway, umm he like bought her EVERYTHING, food, clothes, stuff .. he was like a "buying you stuff" boyfriend. They split up, I think he ditched her. I dunno totally why but yeh.

Saw her accidentally today, she just kinna bounced over all happie like and said help, ten sat down and started nattering. I liked the fact she did that without askin - it kinna turned me on. And well yeh I cant help it but my inner desire to be a psychologist came out and I just sensed some sadness and things, some hurt about OLD things etc. Tis odd cuz now I know about schemas, I can see peoples behviours in a new light. Things that would have made me think ooo you bitch in the past now make me think "ok youre actin like that cuz of how youve been programmed" .. so like SHE IS REALLY HOT but when another girl walked past who was sexy, she was all like "shes a threat!" and things (they both work in a branch of a resataurant and this other girl was a newbie).

She seems shy, she didnt really listen to or seem to take an interest in what I had to say, though I partially put this down to nerves. I have exchanged numbers with her and MSN, and I wanna chat to her online becuz I know then that less of that 'face to face' anxiety will be there, plus my own face to face prollems wont cloud the issue, and I can see what she really like online.

I think shes cute, but at the moment its more physcial - I think she is hotter than A Taliban Campfire oo yeh I wa thinkin naughty things abbot her and stuff. Bad Rossie ok yeh.

So umm, whaddya think? I feel there is mutual likeys, and she flirts a iccle and has droppied some hinties (or what i think are hinties). I think IF there was any chance of 'stuff' I need to know that she can listen to me, accept me and my weirdility, and that I wont just end up as a therapist for her and stuff.

Gawd I wanna see her nekkid. That makes emotional things harder tro see clearly ....

Damn my willie.

Rossie McTodger

[walker]

go for it rossie but take it slow

you so deserve some love

[drew]

girls are dangerous beware

[hummm_mabbe]

girls are dangerous beware

tis ok i shall use me bookies to psychoanamallise em and then they cant do naughty girl tricks on me

Plus anyhoo I have this thing, like, I used to get sooo badly jealous of GF's that now its like, I have shut that bit off. If they start to seem flakey, then its just mehh well I knew this would happen.

Hmmz dunno if that healthy or not. Have to deal with me bippidee abandonmentey issues somehow yanno Avoiding romance is starting to SUCK and me man part is starting to wonder if he's been left fer dead.

Poor man part.

I woulda said poor 'iccle' man part but there are rules against that, so me ego says.

Rossie McWhopperChopper

[bumblepipi]

As a girlie all I can say is. to find a guy who is wiling to listen to you and be "psychotherapist" can be an amazing turn on for a girl but do you really always want to be the the listner and the never listened to?

You BPD and need lots of strokes. I guess: do you think the hot body looks etc is going to be enough to cover this? I don't know I am probably speaking out of my arse but you seem to be a guy that can make people feel wanted and at ease realy quickly. There is nothing wrong with that .

I knew a guy once he was incredibly enigmatic and many girls fancied him but behind his facade was huge trauma and shit events. He revealed these when he got pissed up coked up etc. In the end he alienated everyone that wanted to be close to him by sleeping with his best friends girlfriend. Not sure this is any explanation at all but he was basically pissing into the wind all the time.

I guess I'm saying I hope the girl wants you for you warts and alll ( not that you have any)Not for selfish ends such as rebound. Oh I sound like an over protective mother. What the hell go and have fun.

Bumble

[Benway]

Ross

i found this QUOTE: I think she is hotter than A Taliban Campfire"UNQUOTE objectional and upsetting.

You don't know my views, my life, or my religion, so please leave references like this out of your posts in future.

Noor- arabic name aka (anne marie)

Religion and politics are banned for good reason- they would divide the board.

[loulou1330]

Aww Rossie yr so cute sometimes think i could just eat ya

Am glad you managed to find a girlie, hope it works out for you, you deserve sum lovings, tho not sure how will feel when you off the market what will all us bippidee ladies do once yr all lurved up lol

no seriously, just go with the flow but make sure you dont get hurt or anything cos is true might just be a rebound thing but then again she could turn out to be the one and if not wellllll u can have fun finding out

Lou xx

[kayteedid]

All I can Advice is use your head and not your heart-listenining to the heart eventually leads to disaster(That's been my life lesson).

[hummm_mabbe]

All I can Advice is use your head and not your heart-listenining to the heart eventually leads to disaster(That's been my life lesson).

lulz hee thankie!

I chatted to her on MSN last night and she seemed 'different', kinna more teasey. I like a girl with a sense of humour and who realises when Im joking - really uptight, opinionated or girls who seem to think that they have the right to twist and get offended at everything I say unless it fits their own extremely limted view of the world I find really really sick making, so she didnt seem like that which is nice

Soooo we'll see how she turns out. I dont exactly feel that "oh wow I must have her NOWWWWW" about it, I guess Im just kinna thinkin "oo".

Still, she would defo end up being a 'project' which is prolly not a good thing ... :wacko:

[hummm_mabbe]

Aww Rossie yr so cute sometimes think i could just eat ya

Am glad you managed to find a girlie, hope it works out for you, you deserve sum lovings, tho not sure how will feel when you off the market what will all us bippidee ladies do once yr all lurved up lol

no seriously, just go with the flow but make sure you dont get hurt or anything cos is true might just be a rebound thing but then again she could turn out to be the one and if not wellllll u can have fun finding out

Lou xx

huwwo loulou belle!

Awwz thankie for that Noooo I wont be off the market for some time to come .. I dunno if I have been approved by EU legislation as being fit for consumption on the market yet anyhoo... my relationship capacity tis a bit fledgling at the moment, like one of those furry frshly hatched baby penguins. Sooo with this girlie it will be like I dunno at the most watching the teletubbies together and mabbe holding hands a bit. Mabbe.

Awwz I will always have tha love for youuuuu missie loulou and ma speshie bippidee wimminz cuz ur the nicests. Hmm rebound - could be! Dont likey that. Havin said that she had always been flirtey before she dated him, and um, perhaps a bit during too ... ummz yeh she moaned about him a lot and mabbe me male ego bit was sayin "ha she wants you to rescue her", me brainie part said "dont get involved with that shit Mr Rossie Ross".

Ohmibod I love your avatar - "How about a nice big cup of shut the fuck up?" heeeeee sooo funny

Rossie McAlwaysLuvsThaLoulouBelle :wub:

[hummm_mabbe]

As a girlie all I can say is. to find a guy who is wiling to listen to you and be "psychotherapist" can be an amazing turn on for a girl but do you really always want to be the the listner and the never listened to?

You BPD and need lots of strokes. I guess: do you think the hot body looks etc is going to be enough to cover this? I don't know I am probably speaking out of my arse but you seem to be a guy that can make people feel wanted and at ease realy quickly. There is nothing wrong with that .

I knew a guy once he was incredibly enigmatic and many girls fancied him but behind his facade was huge trauma and shit events. He revealed these when he got pissed up coked up etc. In the end he alienated everyone that wanted to be close to him by sleeping with his best friends girlfriend. Not sure this is any explanation at all but he was basically pissing into the wind all the time.

I guess I'm saying I hope the girl wants you for you warts and alll ( not that you have any)Not for selfish ends such as rebound. Oh I sound like an over protective mother. What the hell go and have fun.

Bumble

heyz ackhalee noo thats a good point, I was nidding when reading it. Yeah I can relate to that alienating people thing Peepul have also said to me stuff like "with other peepul its like you get to know em as time goes on .. but with you you can never get under the surface. Its so tightly clamped down". Ive changed a lot since then cuz of therapee, but I can TOTALLY see what you are saying missie bumble cuz thats pretty much what I was like, cept I would alienate and THEN tell em bits of my past so it just looked like an excuse. Did it wrongie way round, mabbe like that duder you mentioned.

Ooooo I didnt know its a turnon to be listened to for a girlie. God - how do you ever find a man ya wanna do it with? I thought most mennies were kinna known for not listenin much. Hee tios amazing the hooman race is still here. haha my new chat up line "hey bebbeh - wanna vent?" Lulz. Ooo I feel partially sexiefied now

Sooooo cute that you are protectin me, thats the cutest thing, I feel all wubbed. Whoooo

[Pynn]

Go for it!

And she better not break that iccle hearty part of you. Or she will have me to deal with. And about half of the members of bippidee grotto. xD

You deserve some lovinnnnn!

I'm going to be totally jealous though.

Have lots of funnnn Rossie dear :)

[hummm_mabbe]

Go for it!

And she better not break that iccle hearty part of you. Or she will have me to deal with. And about half of the members of bippidee grotto. xD

You deserve some lovinnnnn!

I'm going to be totally jealous though.

Have lots of funnnn Rossie dear

Dunno, haven 2nd thoughties. She doesnt seem to posess the fluffiness that I look for in a girl. She is more brushed stainless steel than bunnie fluff. I dunno, I cant se her saying "Twiffle Stinkies". Hmmz.

I dont think thats being picky though? Its just knowing what I want and need, someone lovenn and huggie and giving. Yeh I know as a duder I should just be thinkin about dippin me wickie, but I think my heartie partie is sayin "hey rossie duder, we need some fluffing (and we dont mean like porn film fluffing, we mean like small rabbits hugging you fluffing, you dirty tinker)".

I am being a post whore today. I am bored but dont really want a conversation with anyone. Anyone else have days like that? Wanna post but not actually have a real conversation? I dunno. Stuff. Gotta headache too now. Things.

Mabbe stop lookin at me screenie.

Yeh, do that.

Awwwwwwwwzzzz nooo dont be jealous. I have lots in me wub reserves :wub:

[Pynn]

Well if your hearty says it ain't the girl, then it ain't the girl. BUT, maybe you should try getting to know her a bit more, just to be sure? Who knows, maybe she's just as fluffy as you are, she's just afraid of showing it?

And, yes I have those days too! Posting is fine, then I can think about what I'm saying for as long as I want, take my time. In an actual convo it all goes so fast and gah...

[hummm_mabbe]

oooo umm

I just found her bebo page. Paraphrasing her ideal man (in case someone cleverly googles the words )

My Ideal Man...

Classy, Charming & has Sex Appeal

Wears amazing Suits & Knows How To Spend His Money ... Wow

Just What All Women Want

PUKE

Umm mabbe its just a sensitivity, cuz I am not that man, but mehh I dunno. I know shallowness can often be a defence against being with someone who would make you feel ... ummz I thinkie that I am fast going off the idea. She is sexy, thats for sure, but ... ummmmmmmmm were are the emotions in that apart from sex and being impressed? Noooooooooo. Heartless.

I can wait for the right one I thinkie

[Benway]

Quote" Yeah I can relate to that alienating people thing "Unquote.

Im sure you can. You did it to me in this thread earlier today - with your

Quote ;" - really uptight, opinionated or girls who seem to think that they have the right to twist and get offended at everything I say unless it fits their own extremely limted view of the world I find really really sick making, so she didnt seem like that which is nice " Unquote.

Just cos i found your reference to "Taliban Campfires" offensive.

At least i have the guts to say it to you directly, instead of coming out sideways with your insult to me. I wasnt insulting you, I was telling you how i felt. And you have a go at me, triggering me in the process.

Hope you're chuffed with yourself. I have as much right to be here as you, yet you insult me for saying something. of course i could really have a go at you, too, i've tons of material to throw at you, but i wouldn't lower myself.

Noor

[hummm_mabbe]

Quote" Yeah I can relate to that alienating people thing "Unquote.

Im sure you can. You did it to me in this thread earlier today - with your

Quote ;" - really uptight, opinionated or girls who seem to think that they have the right to twist and get offended at everything I say unless it fits their own extremely limted view of the world I find really really sick making, so she didnt seem like that which is nice " Unquote.

Just cos i found your reference to "Taliban Campfires" offensive.

At least i have the guts to say it to you directly, instead of coming out sideways with your insult to me. I wasnt insulting you, I was telling you how i felt. And you have a go at me, triggering me in the process.

Hope you're chuffed with yourself. I have as much right to be here as you, yet you insult me for saying something. of course i could really have a go at you, too, i've tons of material to throw at you, but i wouldn't lower myself.

Noor

What on earth are you going on about?

EDIT: Ah wait a minute - so you think that some comment about HER was aimed at you? Isnt this just a TOUCH on the paranoid side? Whether its a symptom or not - youre wrong, as you were with the "im offended" comment in the first place. I didnt even notice your comment until wayyy after I wrote those replies. I chose to ignore it because you were so far off the mark I didnt think it worth replying to you and starting an argument. My comment was aimed at a girl I dated for 2 months called lucy who did exactly this. I suffer from paranoia too and its horrible - but I dont deserve all your hate and bile.

To your concern:

The Taliban – a tribe of people living in a hot, sandy environment, which by nature of already being hot would make any fire lit in it even hotter.

Taliban is a religion in its own right now is it? I thought they just also HAPPENED to be muslim? If I said “colder than a Scotsman’s underpants” does that constitute an insult to a vicar just because some Scots are Christians? Would the world’s Christians then by association have the right to get enraged at me? I was more centering on the fact the Taliban live somewhere hot and might light campfires. Perhaps ‘North Chilean campfire’ or ‘Mexican campfire’ would have been better. Or would that be racist? ‘Stop all campfire lighting’ – that well known racist slogan. If it were a chilly thing I was describing, would comparing temperatures to Moscow be wrong as well now that it’s become politically sensitive? I hadn’t realized that this was a branch of the UN - perhaps Kofi Annan is the only one qualified to safely post here.

If anyone is bringing divisions to the board it is you by twisting an innocuous comment into something its not. You twist my words, accuse me of creating divisions, SUPERIMPOSE you own parnoia on my responses to others and then ACCUSE ME of triggering YOU?

Get off your high horse before it throws you.

[Benway]

ross dont play stupid.

it was obviously aimed at me.

im not paranoid. but i can see a sideways reaction and insult, because i'm not stupid.

you were babbling away with your 'ross-speak, then you say "really uptight, opinionated or girls who seem to think that they have the right to twist and get offended at everything I say unless it fits their own extremely limted view of the world" .

an intelligent, coherent sentance! Now why would YOU write a coherent sentance? because you were referring to my earlier post.

Now accuse me of being paranoid- which im not.

now leave me alone i've had enough crap from you for one day and im upset enough already.. do you speak to girls in real life the way you go on here?

Noor

[hummm_mabbe]

ross dont play stupid.

it was obviously aimed at me.

im not paranoid. but i can see a sideways reaction and insult, because i'm not stupid.

you were babbling away with your 'ross-speak, then you say "really uptight, opinionated or girls who seem to think that they have the right to twist and get offended at everything I say unless it fits their own extremely limted view of the world" .

an intelligent, coherent sentance! Now why would YOU write a coherent sentance? because you were referring to my earlier post.

Now accuse me of being paranoid- which im not.

now leave me alone i've had enough crap from you for one day and im upset enough already.. do you speak to girls in real life the way you go on here?

Noor

My ROSS SPEAK? Is THAT what this outburst is over? IS that the 'other ammunition' you are going on about? Does it someohow upset you that people might like it - that it might be a bit of FUN? Or do you think youve uncovered my secret evil plan to convince people Im nice when in fact underneath it all Im Hannibal Lecter, fishing for girl-meat?

Leave YOU alone? I rather got the impression YOU were the one getting on MY case by starting with some completely undeserved demand that I watch what I post - as if YOU have some say in that matter or are some global arbiter of what constitites fair posting

Quite frankly - you can shove it up your twiffle stinkies.

[Judi]

What a shame that Rossie's little bit of lighthearted romance has been sidetracked like this. I know Rossie genuinely tries to give helpful comments and support to a lot of people on here including me and I can't imagine that he would have intended to cause offence to anyone. His style is not going to be to everyone's liking but I think it's great to inject a bit of humour cos we can be a glum lot.

Don't we all have enough other people picking on us and making life hard in the outside world, without being scared to put a comment on here lest someone be offended?

Lot's of people with and without mental health issues are over-sensitive so surely the sensible thing is to always try to interpret things in a positive way and, if you really feel something's out of order, point it out in a sensitive way.

Anyway if someone has inadvertently been offensive wouldn't it be the moderator's job to have a word?

Smiles and warmth (though not from any specific source of course )

Judi

PS back to the point - I have no idea what to suggest about this girlie! She could be on the rebound, she might not really be shallow just jokey on her webpage it's always a bit of a gamble - good luck whatever x

[Joshua]

Keep personal rows off the forum please.

Suggestion - find a playground....

[hummm_mabbe]

Keep personal rows off the forum please.

Suggestion - find a playground....

Lol sorry .. aye aye skip!

[emma1977]

joshua i understand why you've stopped this post but i wanted to say something in support of noor. all this fluffy bunny stuff doesn't do it for me - and expecting girls to get into that talk - there is something, patronising? about it. maybe i am uptight and paranoid too, maybe it's just personal taste, i prefer shiny steel than fluffy bunnies! also making jokes about scotsmen is different to making jokes about the taliban because the political climate is different - people are getting killed in their hundreds and thousand because of global economic policy and terrorism

maybe it's simply just a personal issue - a controlling ex-boyfriend used to use bunny rabbit language to me all the time...i don't mean to offend ross either, i don't know him and he seems like a nice person.

[Joshua]

I think Ross needs to accept, although i am sure not delibaretly that his post has caused offence to more than one member and to be mindful of this in future postings.

[hummm_mabbe]

I think Ross needs to accept, although i am sure not delibaretly that his post has caused offence to more than one member and to be mindful of this in future postings.

Haha yeh ok I wont mention anymore politics, though quite why I should change how I speak ... thats another issue. If Im going to be asked to stop that, then can we really say that this is a free forum anymore?

Im sorry you dont like it emma, I apologise that your boyfriend used to speak to you like that and it raises memories for you. It would seem you didnt like my comment about stainless steel either - in fact, it would seem that on the basis of barely any posts from me at all, you decided you didnt like me.

Joshua - am I right in thinking, that you are telling me that I have to accept that my "fluffy bunny language" - which many people here seem to appreciate as a bit of fun - is OFFENSIVE?

Are you going to limit my mode of expression on this board, even though it seems to cheer many people up - the WHOLE POINT of BPDWorld? If it bothers Emma, Noor and whoever else, they can tell me and I will be sure to talk to them in another way, or preferably, ignore them completely. I know you have to keep the peace, but isnt users getting angry at someone for the way they speak smacking just a little of the invalidation and control that we are hoping to change here on this site? I lend my support here because I think its something worth supporting and I like to help others as well as learn, but I think if I am going to be told that saying "and stuffenstuff" is offensive to people with BPD then that would be sad. At worst my words are annoying to some - but offensive? Do I get to request that someone be reprimanded if they annoy me?