Ruth24 Posted October 21, 2009 Report Share Posted October 21, 2009 sorry roxy i was saying yes u were right sorry i misunderstood, sorry your exam went bad, maybe its not as bad as you thought actually i should put an edit, there is one other (mod i presume) who i think is really wounderful cause they changed my pic from a nasty triggery butterfly to a pretty and safe kitten, but i dont know who that was, whoever that was is super ace. the bad stuff that reconfirms that people shouldnt be trusted proably stands out more than the good I think it was Em that did that for you, if i remember correctly. I remember your post about it Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
roxy222 Posted October 21, 2009 Report Share Posted October 21, 2009 sorry roxy i was saying yes u were right sorry i misunderstood, sorry your exam went bad, maybe its not as bad as you thought actually i should put an edit, there is one other (mod i presume) who i think is really wounderful cause they changed my pic from a nasty triggery butterfly to a pretty and safe kitten, but i dont know who that was, whoever that was is super ace. the bad stuff that reconfirms that people shouldnt be trusted proably stands out more than the good I think it was Em that did that for you, if i remember correctly. I remember your post about it didnt realise i had posted about it, or that i knew a name, so thanks, so em was v nice to do that and was considerate of my triggers, and didnt make me feel stupid for them like i often find people do Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sammy Posted October 21, 2009 Report Share Posted October 21, 2009 I think drew was agreeing about what you talked about regarding people having own issues, ie: projection, and that her reaction was based on her own feelings of herself today. I appreciate you feeling you can trust me, although I feel I don't do any better than anyone else on here, but understand that as you said it's based on getting to know me and having dealt with me directly. Admit I felt a bit awkward having my name mentioned, but only because didn't want others taking it as me being better than them as I know I am not, so glad you were able to explain why I in particular was mentioned. And as said do appreciate awknowledgement - good for the ego! lol I guess I hope you and other mods get opportunity in future to build that trust too - although I recognise you don't feel it's necessary - it is still nice when it happens I think, for all concerned. I did initially think the topic was about me, but quickly stopped hearing with my own 'agenda and issues' and accepted that not everything negative said is about me, and that it would make sense that it would be more about ppl that have had more recent change of positions. I would say too though, that people change, life changes, situations change and any decision about who becomes a mod/mini mod/peer supporter etc... is decided on an individual basis, based on many factors without past history being held against a person. People - all people make mistakes, but also sometimes those mistakes may not necessarily affect the job that needs doing. For example one person may not get along with certain people, but may get along with a whole bunch more, people that DO feel able to trust them and communicate with them and therefore they can still be of use to a large population of people. Hopefully with full staff available, there will always be one person at least that someone in need can talk to and trust, if a member doesn't get on with one of the modded/supporter people, then they can speak to another one that they do feel able to talk to. There are guidelines for the mods and supporters too, so no discrimination based on personal feelings with regards to forum powers would be accepted. But remember also, we are all ill too, we volunteer our support of the forum and our time, we are not professionally trained people, we do not know all the answers, we have rules and guidelines and constraints on what we can do within our job roles and although here to offer emotional support our aim is to also encourage and aid recovery, as well as encourage members to take responsibility for own actions - solve own disputes etc... and also we can't be here all the time. Sometimes if a topic that breaks the rules is not deleted, but yet yours was, it is not discrimination, we just haven't seen the other topic, we weren't about at that moment. We can't read EVERY thread when we are here. I guess what I'm trying to say is, we all do our best, when we can, but we are not perfect robots, we are human beings that also have our own mental health issues, jobs, families, homes etc.... Now I know I've got really defensive and I can openly admit that IS one of MY issues, my other is I talk to much! lol Hate me or love me - either is fine! I'll still be here, carrying on, doing what I can, when I can just as I know ALL the other volunteers will be too. *am feeling all the love and think we all need group hugs* *watches everyone run away from the crazy lady" :D Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sammy Posted October 21, 2009 Report Share Posted October 21, 2009 Lol and I wrote such a long post that the issue was already dealt with waaaaaaaaaaaaaay back! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
em Posted October 21, 2009 Report Share Posted October 21, 2009 it was lilly, not em Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
roxy222 Posted October 21, 2009 Report Share Posted October 21, 2009 it was lilly, not em thank you, and thanks to lilly very much then Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ruth24 Posted October 22, 2009 Report Share Posted October 22, 2009 it was lilly, not em thank you, and thanks to lilly very much then Sorry-my mistake :( Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shelley Posted October 23, 2009 Author Report Share Posted October 23, 2009 *buttons mouth firmly shut on this one and tries to remember to be patient* 1 to 10 and back again 1 to 10 and back again 1 to 10 and back again 1 to 10 and back again 1 to 10 and back again 1 to 10 and back again 1 to 10 and back again 1 to 10 and back again 1 to 10 and back again 1 to 10 and back again 1 to 10 and back again 1 to 10 and back again 1 to 10 and back again 1 to 10 and back again 1 to 10 and back again 1 to 10 and back again 1 to 10 and back again 1 to 10 and back again 1 to 10 and back again 1 to 10 and back again 1 to 10 and back again 1 to 10 and back again 1 to 10 and back again 1 to 10 and back again 1 to 10 and back again 1 to 10 and back again 1 to 10 and back again 1 to 10 and back again 1 to 10 and back again 1 to 10 and back again 1 to 10 and back again 1 to 10 and back again awwwww fuck it! Roses, why did you feel the need the need to post that, AFTER I had apologised? If you have something to say go ahead say it! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shelley Posted October 23, 2009 Author Report Share Posted October 23, 2009 lovely to see your name here, how are things? i havnt ever felt like mods are trust worthy anyways, cept sammy, but i'll happily admit i dont trust people anyways so thats more to do with me than anything. it does seem like a v quick turn around from a whole heap of nastiness a while back, but hopefully itll be a good thing. saying that iv given up bothering to say anything when i find i am continualy disappointed by unfair actions so i doubt id care who was moderating. far more importantly, how are you anna? is it helpful? are you now too wise for us take care and best of luckxxx Im better thanks Roxy, off 5 addictive medications! Things are getting easier to cope with, anxiety is getting better. Worse thing at the moment is the state of the house that I came home to, H literally did fuck all for four and a half weeks, and because im weak physically, I can't get it all done quickly like I did before, which is frustrating! H says I have OCD about it, well maybe I said, so what's HIS exscuse for being a skanky, lazy git then????? lol No im not too wise now Roxy, I know a lot about addiction, but still confuzzled about my mental health diagnosis.......the dreaded B.P.D. Anna xxx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Roses Posted October 23, 2009 Report Share Posted October 23, 2009 OK, I'll say it Anna - I don't appreciate being called an arsehole. I don't appreciate you reminding meme of the bad times on here as we have all moved on. And if you weren't calling me personally an arsehole, I resent you calling any of the moderating team arseholes. We all try our best to help everyone. I think it is childish, selfish, rude and arrogant of you to say these things. I am deeply offended by you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
roxy222 Posted October 23, 2009 Report Share Posted October 23, 2009 lovely to see your name here, how are things? i havnt ever felt like mods are trust worthy anyways, cept sammy, but i'll happily admit i dont trust people anyways so thats more to do with me than anything. it does seem like a v quick turn around from a whole heap of nastiness a while back, but hopefully itll be a good thing. saying that iv given up bothering to say anything when i find i am continualy disappointed by unfair actions so i doubt id care who was moderating. far more importantly, how are you anna? is it helpful? are you now too wise for us take care and best of luckxxx Im better thanks Roxy, off 5 addictive medications! Things are getting easier to cope with, anxiety is getting better. Worse thing at the moment is the state of the house that I came home to, H literally did fuck all for four and a half weeks, and because im weak physically, I can't get it all done quickly like I did before, which is frustrating! H says I have OCD about it, well maybe I said, so what's HIS exscuse for being a skanky, lazy git then????? lol No im not too wise now Roxy, I know a lot about addiction, but still confuzzled about my mental health diagnosis.......the dreaded B.P.D. Anna xxx i think you should dx him as typical man syndrom congrats on the rehab, glad its helped some stuffx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shelley Posted October 23, 2009 Author Report Share Posted October 23, 2009 OK, I'll say it Anna - I don't appreciate being called an arsehole. I don't appreciate you reminding meme of the bad times on here as we have all moved on. And if you weren't calling me personally an arsehole, I resent you calling any of the moderating team arseholes. We all try our best to help everyone. I think it is childish, selfish, rude and arrogant of you to say these things. I am deeply offended by you. Sorry, sorry to all of the moderators here, I hope this will clear the air. Anna xxx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Roses Posted October 23, 2009 Report Share Posted October 23, 2009 Thank you Anna. xxx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ruth24 Posted October 23, 2009 Report Share Posted October 23, 2009 Anna you are struggling, and i hope things get better Apology accepted Takecare of yourself xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shelley Posted November 8, 2009 Author Report Share Posted November 8, 2009 APOLOGY REVOKED!!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Barebones Posted November 8, 2009 Report Share Posted November 8, 2009 That didnt take long then did it Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shelley Posted November 8, 2009 Author Report Share Posted November 8, 2009 Well, with today's confession by a moderator, I was wrong to mis-judge my gut instincts. Wrong. But my gut instinct was correct. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
roxy222 Posted November 8, 2009 Report Share Posted November 8, 2009 gut instincts allways correct stand by them allways, just maybe learn to phrase them better!!! (i need to do this too sometimes) tc annax Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shelley Posted November 8, 2009 Author Report Share Posted November 8, 2009 Oh and meme, you would be wise to remember who covered your back during attacks from such people. And I appreciated that, thanks . However... I have learned that... just because someone is nice to you, or your friend, does not mean that you should support them if they are wrong. Equally, I have learned that holding grudges against people who you have fallen out with can be unhealthy. I have had disagreements with Ruth, Roses and Barebones in the past, and they are all now moderators, but I am prepared to put those disagreements behind me so that we can all get along. Part of the reason for that is that I think that they ain't bad people, its just we all have disagreements now and again. I think the forum is a nicer place now than it has been in the past and we are all benefitting from that. Who's the better person? Not me, not you, not the moderators!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Barebones Posted November 8, 2009 Report Share Posted November 8, 2009 so then that still makes it ok to call us aholes? ur playing with words anna, one thing is, none that is going on has anything to do with you, and your making it more heated. What would u know about what has been said by 2 people in private? You know why i found it insulting and why i never responded in the first place, is you basicly called me a ahole aswell. So please just leave it, there was no need to revoke any apology. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
roxy222 Posted November 8, 2009 Report Share Posted November 8, 2009 so then that still makes it ok to call us aholes? ur playing with words anna, one thing is, none that is going on has anything to do with you, and your making it more heated. What would u know about what has been said by 2 people in private? You know why i found it insulting and why i never responded in the first place, is you basicly called me a ahole aswell. So please just leave it, there was no need to revoke any apology. this is quite clearly effecting many people here, very badly, if not all of us anna has a right to revoke appologies if she wants to, whether there is a 'need' to or not is up to her Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shelley Posted November 8, 2009 Author Report Share Posted November 8, 2009 so then that still makes it ok to call us aholes? ur playing with words anna, one thing is, none that is going on has anything to do with you, and your making it more heated. What would u know about what has been said by 2 people in private? You know why i found it insulting and why i never responded in the first place, is you basicly called me a ahole aswell. So please just leave it, there was no need to revoke any apology. It has something to do with me when I have seen Data bullied, and attacked over a period of months, by people who have now been made moderators, ffs, how the hell did you three become moderators? I consider Data to be a friend; sorry if that's difficult for you! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Barebones Posted November 8, 2009 Report Share Posted November 8, 2009 Oh and data is not my friend? what the fuk would you know anna? sry if josh felt and i assure you if there has been any wrong doing or anything, you would not be a mini mod or even a moderator. And did you not pm me and say to me great job in getting to be moderator anna? actual fact is i became mod before you went into hospital, infact i was moderator well before any of use was ever here, infact i have seen this kind of shit well before any of yous came here, this is not the first and it wont be the last, my problem is being called an ahole and my problem that this is coming very personal and heated. Yes roxy she has the right, but hey my gut instinct it was bound to happen and i knew it wouldnt last either. Hey maybe i might not post or hey one of my post was invisabled and oh my you never got chance to see it, so dont tell me sry if i find this difficult that hes a friend of yours. So maybe you can blow your apology as it was never meant in first place. I have said enough and revoke all you want, i wont be posting on this any more or anything else to do with this. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shelley Posted November 8, 2009 Author Report Share Posted November 8, 2009 Lol, I never asked or expected any of the mod's to say anything here. I wanted to revoke my appology and that was pretty much all. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ruth24 Posted November 8, 2009 Report Share Posted November 8, 2009 Lol, I never asked or expected any of the mod's to say anything here. I wanted to revoke my appology and that was pretty much all. Have you considered getting therapy? might help you grow up Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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