Thin

[lonelyheartemma]

I want to be thin when i look at myself my hips look huge but i wear size 6 clothes so I must be thin really

i skipped lunch the last 3 days but it hasnt made any difference yet

[tiga]

If you are a size 6 then yes you are very thin.

Am sorry that when you look at yourself you are unable to see this. It must be really difficult for you.

[lonelyheartemma]

its weird my mum says she is size 16 and she looks really thin to me but i look huge!

[Ruth24]

I am a size 6 and a recovering anorexic.

I used to look in the mirror and see fat bits, but now i see bony shoulders and ribs and my pelvis sticks out. I now notice the skinny bits, the bits I couldn't see before even when they were pointed out to me.

Anybody who aspires to be a size six, don't do it. It is not a healthy weight to be and i am desperately trying to gain weight.

Have you seen the doctor about your weight or spoken to anybody about your food or eating issues?

Take care and please try to eat at least one meal a day

xx

[lonelyheartemma]

i eat 2 meals a day and i dont want to be bigger than size 6, i want to be size 4 if anything

i think you're doing amazing though, it must be so hard to change your mindset like that but you have done it

[Russell]

Feel out of place commenting from the guy perspective but I struggle with body image and body dysmorphia. Everyone around me says Im getting very thin but I cant see it. One thing that did help me slightly was looking through old photos and comparing them with current ones. I can see a slight difference but no where what people are saying. Are you getting support for your ed?

[lonelyheartemma]

hi Russell, you dont need to feel out of place, if you feel the same way as me then its not a girl thing, its something that affects guys too and im really glad you posted

I hate photos of me so there arent many so it's hard to compare but when i was a size 12 my mum told me i needed to lose some weight so i definately have got thinner. I dont think im too thin though, i look fat to me except my arms, my arms might be too thin but im sure the rest of me isnt, my hips are massive

I'm not getting any support with it, i want to see a nutritionist so i can get help with losing weight in the healthiest way but my mum says im just right and i dont need to get thinner but if im just right i'm not thin.

[Russell]

Hi Emma, Youre up late or should that be early!?

I love the way parents can say the most inappropriate things and drag us down. My mum can come out with some right shockers sometimes. Im the same with photos! (must be an ed thing) I had to ask around to see if people had photos of me

Speaking to a nutritionist is always a good idea and the chances are you will get a neutral honest opinion of whether you are underweight or not. do you know your bmi and where it stands on the scale. Im not a huge fan of bmi charts/scales as they can be a bit vague.

If youre a UK size 6 I would say your a pretty small frame or very underweight but who's to judge, at the end of the day you have to be happy with yourself (something I havent managed yet)

Take care

[lonelyheartemma]

I was up late, i didnt get to sleep to 8am. I was in pain which kept me awake and i forgot to take my anti-depressants which help me get to sleep.

my mum says i say inapropriate things a lot and shes probably right and I'm not saying shes worse than me but she does get things wrong sometimes. maybe its hard saying the right thing to someone as sensitive as me! But some of the things she says make me think she didnt need to say that.

my bmi is about 18.1 but im not sure what I weigh exactly coz my mum has hidden the scales! 18.5 is the lowest it should be but it only says 18.1 is usually classed as underweight and I might need to put on more to be healthier, it doesnt say it definately is underweight. So i think i could lose a bit more

[ILostHer]

my bmi is about 18.1 but im not sure what I weigh exactly coz my mum has hidden the scales! 18.5 is the lowest it should be but it only says 18.1 is usually classed as underweight and I might need to put on more to be healthier, it doesnt say it definately is underweight. So i think i could lose a bit more

Hi,

The problem is that whatever your bmi, your mum or your scales say there is usually another number or word that will make you think you should lose a bit more. That's the problem with our heads not our bodies. I am in the same position so am going to be rubbish at advice, but it's easier to see/think rationally when it's someone else isn't it? I don't think you should try to lose more weight, it could be dangerous depending on your height and your frame, size 6 is small, and your bmi is low.

There is a fine line between lower end of healthy and underweight.

If you see things that others don't i.e fat where there isn't then that is the problem. Because that image isn't going to change no matter how thin you get.

You say your nutritionist is helping you lose weight the healthy way, at size 6 she shouldn't be encouraging you to lose any more at all!

I wish I had the answer, I am the same though, eat enough just to stay alive yet still see big when I look in the mirror, when others see 'skinny'

The answer I suppose is help for the distortion in your self image. Are you able to ask a gp or someone for help with that?x

[lonelyheartemma]

thank you for replying, I'm sorry other people feel like i do but it is nice to know im not alone

I havent got a nutritionist yet, its just something I'm thinking about, sorry i didn't make that clear. I really want to get thinner but i know its dangerous and i want to do it in the best way.

but maybe I'll always look fat to me.

[ILostHer]

thank you for replying, I'm sorry other people feel like i do but it is nice to know im not alone

I havent got a nutritionist yet, its just something I'm thinking about, sorry i didn't make that clear. I really want to get thinner but i know its dangerous and i want to do it in the best way.

but maybe I'll always look fat to me.

I read in another post of yours that you have been in hospital with your heart. I just wanted to say please, please be careful. I hope you get some help for this xx

[lonelyheartemma]

thank you for replying, I'm sorry other people feel like i do but it is nice to know im not alone

I havent got a nutritionist yet, its just something I'm thinking about, sorry i didn't make that clear. I really want to get thinner but i know its dangerous and i want to do it in the best way.

but maybe I'll always look fat to me.

I read in another post of yours that you have been in hospital with your heart. I just wanted to say please, please be careful. I hope you get some help for this xx

thank you for posting again, it really made me feel cared about. I am seeing the doctor next week so I will try to talk about it then xx

[piuma]

Stay safe emma, take good care of yourself, and do go see someone, My partner battles with eating problems too, I have eating problems but on a very different end of the spectrum, however...I do know how dangerous this game is....and how easy it is to get sucked in.

I hope you can find some inner peace xxxxxxx

[lonelyheartemma]

thank you piuma xxxxxx

I hope i can too. I hope your partner is doing ok, I bet it helps to have an understanding partner like you

[Ruth24]

Please take care emma. i know its hard

Thinking of you

Ingrid

x

[lonelyheartemma]

thank you Ingrid. I know i keep saying it but I do appreciate it. I might feel fat but at least there are people who care x

I ate 2 meals today, I had breakfast, no lunch, quite a big dinner, then i had a snack a couple of hours ago

[Miss_Kassy]

Hi Emma

You sound just like me when I was a little younger. How old are you if you don't mind me asking?

I too used to be very slim (well, a size 8) but all I could see was fat. I thought I was huge too. I struggled with bulemia and extream dieting from the age of 17 to 27. Then I hit a point where I gave in to it all and piled on the pounds. I am 29 now and a size 18. Dont get me wrong, I am very unhappy, but now I do look back and think to myself I was silly for obsessing so much and letting it get to me as I was thin enough. Now i'd be happy to get back down to a 12 (which in the past would have freaked me out). Its really got me to see things in perspective.

What I would say is do not waste your time worring about what how thin you are. Easier said then done I know. Go and see a therapist or someone and learn to love yourself. I'm sad I spent all those years obsessed with food and dieting. Yes I was thin but not happy. I was even a model and still believed I was fat and ugly. Thats how messed up your mind can get.

If you ever need to talk I'm here, as I know too well how you are feeling.

xxxx

[lonelyheartemma]

thank you Kassy. It's always really good to hear from ppl who understand. That's really intresting you were actually a model, you must have been very thin and very beautiful. its so sad you couldn't see that but its good you got over it, maybe i will too. I'm sorry you're still unhappy but it must be good in a way not worrying about that now.

I'm 19, when I was at school i didnt care so much and everyone teased me for being thin anyway even tho i was size 10 but now I do care. I think it started when i got a bloating problem after meals and i went on a train and a guy offered me his seat coz he thought i was pregnant. i didnt start worrying straight after that but that was probably part of it

thank you xxxxx

[chorse_70]

As I clearly don't suffer from anorexia I wish I knew more of what to say? I've seen a couple women on this site who believe there overweight and actually they're not as a matter of fact I think they're gorgeous. I do indeed have a overweight issue and need to lose weight for health reasons so I think about how ugly and fat I am everyday. I guess the only advice I can give you is that everyone is beautiful in their own way and we all need to see it in ourselves but finding out how to accept yourself for who you are is one task I have never learned to this day. So keep trying to realize you're special.

[lonelyheartemma]

I'll try. Thank you

I did have 3 meals today, not big meals but 3 meals

im not anorexic tho am i?

[Warrior Princess]

I know when people say I'm thin or they say "It's good to see you've put on weight"@!!!!! I can't see that I'm "thin". My god ... how can they say I'm thin!

And when they say it's good to see I've put on weight, it makes me frantic to lose it again.

Right now I'm not thin under any stretch of the imagination, but I wish i was thinner.

Not very helpful I know... just that I know how you are feeling.

It's best to take these thoughts and feelings to a doctor or specialist. it's not a healthy thing to want to be thinner than a size 6 let alone a size 4! why do you think you wan tot be this thin? How would it help? What would it achieve for you? Why would it be better?

I guess we both need to answer these questions.

WP

[lonelyheartemma]

most of the people who are sposed to be really beautiful are thin. victoria beckham is the famous one, I think she looks not that great really but most people dont agree with me! Cheryl cole is gorgeous but i heard shes size 8. the dancers on strictly look amazing

also at school ppl told me i was ugly and stupid and boring every day but they never told me i was fat so maybe its like being thin is the only good thing about me and i dont want to lose that?

telling someone theyve put on weight is not good!!!! even if they mean it in a good way!