addy2 Posted January 23, 2011 Report Share Posted January 23, 2011 I just wondered does anyone else prefer to live in their own world by that i mean i spent alot of time in my own head. When i am driving i am constantly thinking of other things other lives i could have, i do the same at night when i am trying to sleep. I hate it when my kids talk to me and distract me out of it then i feel bad for not being there for them. I just wondered does anyone do this and does anyone know why? I know i prefer it there to the real world. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pepsimeg Posted January 23, 2011 Report Share Posted January 23, 2011 Hey i notice this happens to me alot when im really stressed i just get carried away into another world, used to happen alot, personally when i notice it starting up again i realise its a sign im finding it hard to cope, sometimes its hard to get out of, its the brains way of helping u cope i think, i dunno but thats wat experience has taught me.... have u noticed this happening at any particular time. incidently i mention this in my thread today in dissociation emo xx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
addy2 Posted January 23, 2011 Author Report Share Posted January 23, 2011 Hi, i will read your thread, is that what i am doing disassociating? I do alot even if i'm not stressed, but then again life in general stresses me and i find everything too much at times and i just want to hide alot, i am distracted alot i just thought it was me living in my own world.xx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pepsimeg Posted January 23, 2011 Report Share Posted January 23, 2011 hey i dunno whether fantasising is dissociating, i just know i do it alot and noticed theres a pattern to it. i have d.i.d but doesnt mean u do but hey just thought i wud explain how it is for me. all the best i dont think fantasies are a bad thing but for me they are when they start taking over my everyday life and i find it hard to 'bring myself out of them' emo xxx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
addy2 Posted January 23, 2011 Author Report Share Posted January 23, 2011 It could be just a mixture of the two i know i disassociate if i was really anxious or stressed but in everyday life i just shut of in my own world but i like it there but with the disassocaition i don't like it there as i feel unreal and spaced out. Thanks for you help.xx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lucyloo Posted January 23, 2011 Report Share Posted January 23, 2011 I live in my own world, its a place where people are all nice to each other, the sun smiles and life is good, The problem with this is, i don't/can't let most of my few close friends into it, as they would spoil it for me. So, although it is a good place, it really is only me that lives there. Its not a fantasy really but a retreat. I think this may be a form of disassociation,, but am not sure. I do know, its not healthy for me, as months go past in the real world, but I hardly notice, That can't be good! L x Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tieeree Posted January 23, 2011 Report Share Posted January 23, 2011 I do it all the time.. Thankfully I don't have a driving license or I'd be a real danger on the roads But seriously it's one of the best ways I know to forget how my life really is.. I cherish every moment in my fantasyworld. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
addy2 Posted January 23, 2011 Author Report Share Posted January 23, 2011 Yeah me too i don't think i could cope if i couldn't go there and no one else is allowed its just for me, maybe thats a bit selfish but i don't care.xx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pepsimeg Posted January 23, 2011 Report Share Posted January 23, 2011 i think theres liking it and theres getting lost in it, if you can manage to keep it to a time where it shud be thats fine, its when it takes over thats its a problem, like talking out aloud when you shouldnt, getting so wrapped up in it that your not sure if its real or a fantasy dunno maybe its just me...soz just thinking aloud :lol: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cloud12 Posted January 23, 2011 Report Share Posted January 23, 2011 I think alot of us have fantasy worlds we drift off to. Whats the harm though, this real world can be pretty damn shitty some times and it can be a relief to get away from it for awhile. I usually drift off to my fantasy world when im listening to music that really affects me, makes it special and more real Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
addy2 Posted January 23, 2011 Author Report Share Posted January 23, 2011 i think theres liking it and theres getting lost in it, if you can manage to keep it to a time where it shud be thats fine, its when it takes over thats its a problem, like talking out aloud when you shouldnt, getting so wrapped up in it that your not sure if its real or a fantasy dunno maybe its just me...soz just thinking aloud I know what you mean emogirl there is a time and a place, funny you should say that about not getting lost in it, i was in the shop last night looking for washing powder and i was in my head as usual i'm not sure if i spoke out loud or not but the girl working there looked at me funny and asked me was i ok, i was like what? I was confused but anyway i don't know what happened, maybe i need to try and control it more and try and stay in the real world more for longer anyway.xx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
addy2 Posted January 23, 2011 Author Report Share Posted January 23, 2011 I think alot of us have fantasy worlds we drift off to. Whats the harm though, this real world can be pretty damn shitty some times and it can be a relief to get away from it for awhile. I usually drift off to my fantasy world when im listening to music that really affects me, makes it special and more real Yeah i do it even more if i am listening to music or reading a book i just get in the book its like i'm in the story. I agree this world is shitty its good to have somewhere else to go.xx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
donnam Posted January 23, 2011 Report Share Posted January 23, 2011 Hi yes mine is usually destructive thoughts about myself, and mostly when i am trying to sleep, but it seems so real. recently i have been imagining living in this beautiful 5 bed house, close to excellent school, etc, thing is it is partly true, i can have this house, rent free, only have to pay the bills, so i want to make it a reality but atm i have to go into my own little world imaginig the rooms we would all be in etc as my hubby refuses to move into the house, no rush i guess, i can have it when ever i want (parents own it) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pepsimeg Posted January 23, 2011 Report Share Posted January 23, 2011 no no i dont think ppl understand me,,,,,,theres harmless fantasies then theres getting in them so much they pull you in and u cant get out...... oh shut up emo u talking shite again......told u they wudnt understand A Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
addy2 Posted January 23, 2011 Author Report Share Posted January 23, 2011 They are so real aren't they if i do it when i am falling asleep i wake up confused. I just wondered too is it part of BPD or is it something everyone does? I hope you get your dream house.xx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
addy2 Posted January 23, 2011 Author Report Share Posted January 23, 2011 Emogirl i do understand what you are saying, sometimes its not safe or nice to get lost in them.xx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pepsimeg Posted January 23, 2011 Report Share Posted January 23, 2011 thank u....soz i got angry A xx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
addy2 Posted January 23, 2011 Author Report Share Posted January 23, 2011 thank u....soz i got angry A xx Thats ok. (((Emogirl))).xx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lucyloo Posted January 23, 2011 Report Share Posted January 23, 2011 my world doesn't have the element of fantasy that everyone else seems to experience :-( I can't explain really what I mean, but i do know, my head is either blank or busy thinking about whatever, that I have sat in front of a wood shelf, with a candle burning beneath it, without noticing that a huge hole had appeared and the wood was smoldering. My son doesn't like me going out alone, as I walk in front of cars two or three times aweek if I get out alone, strangely, I have driven all over the uk, parts of europe and usa, almost as many miles as a salesman, but have never had an accident! lol L x Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tieeree Posted January 23, 2011 Report Share Posted January 23, 2011 I'm not sure I understand but that might just be my ´bad english XD I sometimes have a problem separating fantasy from reality, only for a brief moment but still. When Im in a bad way it tend to be more frequent, when well less. But the other thing I experience alot, though it's really got nothing to do with my fantasy world (sorry for wandering of subject) but I have a real problem sorting memories and experiences. I can't remeber years, dates and such. It's all a blur and trying to put them in any chronlogical form is a real challenge. It could have happend ten years ago yesterday. I just don't know. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Plushie Posted January 23, 2011 Report Share Posted January 23, 2011 I do it all the time too especially when watching TV,People will say did you watch whatever was on last night and did u see what happened?I was watching it but i can't remember what happened in the show.i go into a world of my own,I also do it when i am out too but sometimes i don't even realise i am doing it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
addy2 Posted January 23, 2011 Author Report Share Posted January 23, 2011 When i feel like that i am so distracted as well, i often say i shouldn't be allowed out alone. Sometimes the thoughts are good like having a new life or going on holiday or falling in love or looking perfect, other times they are scary like i fantazie about killing myself what i would use, or i dream about running away and if others would miss me or look for me, i'm just feeling strange now thinking about it.xx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pepsimeg Posted January 23, 2011 Report Share Posted January 23, 2011 plushie thats dissociating Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tieeree Posted January 23, 2011 Report Share Posted January 23, 2011 Addy - is that a common "fantasy" you think? I do also have reoccuring fantasys about my death, funeral and stuff like that. Often its very violent, not the sort of thing someone would want to fantasies about... right? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
addy2 Posted January 23, 2011 Author Report Share Posted January 23, 2011 Addy - is that a common "fantasy" you think? I do also have reoccuring fantasys about my death, funeral and stuff like that. Often its very violent, not the sort of thing someone would want to fantasies about... right? I don't know if its common or not, mine can be violent too and i also how can i say this without upsetting anyone, sorry if i do. I have been raped in the past and sexually abuse but sometimes i fantaizse about that as well, well i think i do it goes over and over in my head but not in a bad way, maybe i'm just sick in the head. Sorry if i annoyed anyone. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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