roxy222 Posted February 12, 2011 Report Share Posted February 12, 2011 its compleately out of order this is not a primary school, ALL people are responsible for what they say regardless of how wound up they feel you can not have a go a someone for claiming their rule breaking is a result of being pushed by you guys then be similarly bitchy back and claim its cause youv been pushed by that person, thats hypocritical and childish tit for tat i undertsnad feeling frustrated, feeling unheard and feeling angry or passionate or triggered, theres plenty of times iv came across agressively for those reasons and realised in hindsight how unhelpful that is, but iv never taken underhand blows just to get back at someone, and for so many people to claim its that persons fault is out of order. ofcourse people react badly in the moment, but afterwards you cant continue to stick your heads in the sand and claim its not your fault. grow up. iv felt all kinds of angry and frustrated and hurt by behaviour here over the yrs (my own included), but iv never felt this disgusted or disappointed iby how people here are behaving. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fireflies Posted February 12, 2011 Report Share Posted February 12, 2011 Well I probably shouldn't chime into this one since I'm a classic example of someone who simply reacts. Dragon. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
walker Posted February 12, 2011 Report Share Posted February 12, 2011 just one point whether its alters or whoever - everyone is resplonsible we know this but sometimes we CANT act grown up sometimes inside loses all contact with any 'grownupness' and is consumed by a small childs emotions in overwhelming proportions and it is a major major major struggle to stop it bursting out in rl or all over the forum and sometimes it just does there is no way to be 'grownup' at those times, it is simply not something we can access at all all we can do is apologise and accept responsibility afterwards or try try try not to say/type anything Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mentary Posted February 12, 2011 Report Share Posted February 12, 2011 What are you talking about? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Warrior Princess Posted February 12, 2011 Report Share Posted February 12, 2011 Me I think and I've already appolgised for innapropriate behavior on another thread and in PM's. WP Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TizzyGirl Posted February 12, 2011 Report Share Posted February 12, 2011 Roxy, I don't see why you don't just leave this and move on. Everyone else has. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
roxy222 Posted February 12, 2011 Author Report Share Posted February 12, 2011 just one point whether its alters or whoever - everyone is resplonsible we know this but sometimes we CANT act grown up sometimes inside loses all contact with any 'grownupness' and is consumed by a small childs emotions in overwhelming proportions and it is a major major major struggle to stop it bursting out in rl or all over the forum and sometimes it just does there is no way to be 'grownup' at those times, it is simply not something we can access at all all we can do is apologise and accept responsibility afterwards or try try try not to say/type anything yes i appriciate that walker, thats why im saying that people shd be responsible afetrwards. and sweety i dont think iv ever seen you be anything other than utterly lovely to everyone on here, even when you are struggling yourself, you're a gem tc Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
roxy222 Posted February 12, 2011 Author Report Share Posted February 12, 2011 Me I think and I've already appolgised for innapropriate behavior on another thread and in PM's. WP i disagree. saying i apologuise then justifying behaviour invalidates an apology Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
roxy222 Posted February 12, 2011 Author Report Share Posted February 12, 2011 Roxy, I don't see why you don't just leave this and move on. Everyone else has. because i feel hurt and will say so if i feel its necessary. and i v much doubt everyone has moved on, seeing as the same pattern kept on replaying itself time and time again. these issues effect the whole forum, not just those directly involved. if i want to speak about the group menatlity of this i will Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TizzyGirl Posted February 12, 2011 Report Share Posted February 12, 2011 And thats your right as a person. But why continue all this when the thread has been locked so everyone has the time to cool off? Aren't you just adding to the fire? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
walker Posted February 12, 2011 Report Share Posted February 12, 2011 but justifying your feeling hurt is no different to others justifying their pain and reasons for lashing out ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh walker is going to sit on her hands or she is going to regress very rapidly Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
roxy222 Posted February 12, 2011 Author Report Share Posted February 12, 2011 imnot calling anyone names or breaking rules Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Warrior Princess Posted February 12, 2011 Report Share Posted February 12, 2011 It wasn't actually justified. It was stated that it was still the wrong thing to do despite the reasons. Also, as you stated above, people can do things in the heat of a moment and in anger. None are infallible. I can post the PM here. I have read it. It was put in PM for a reason. Not once has there been a personal attack issues in the other direction except for the one thing that WP did and then later regretted and deleted. so can we move along? I'm so very over this. Dragon. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
roxy222 Posted February 12, 2011 Author Report Share Posted February 12, 2011 And thats your right as a person. But why continue all this when the thread has been locked so everyone has the time to cool off? Aren't you just adding to the fire? appriciate your point but i feel glossing over such an issue would be negligent, and allow it to continue again and again Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TizzyGirl Posted February 12, 2011 Report Share Posted February 12, 2011 That is very true. But I fear that it could cause more harm than good if things became heated. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fireflies Posted February 12, 2011 Report Share Posted February 12, 2011 Edit_ not worth it. Dragon Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
roxy222 Posted February 12, 2011 Author Report Share Posted February 12, 2011 That is very true. But I fear that it could cause more harm than good if things became heated. im not going to be Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TizzyGirl Posted February 12, 2011 Report Share Posted February 12, 2011 Thats you though. Others will react differently, don't you think? Esp since we are all so very different. You've said your bit, thats your right. But when everyone else tries to say their bit and not everyone agrees then that becomes the problem I think. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fireflies Posted February 12, 2011 Report Share Posted February 12, 2011 the problem is a thread that is deliberatly to have a go at someone over something said in private. Why not take the issue there rather than here? Dragon Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
roxy222 Posted February 12, 2011 Author Report Share Posted February 12, 2011 (reply to ha) and thats when people need to be responsible for themselves, instead of blaming everything on reacting to someone else, which was my original point Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
roxy222 Posted February 12, 2011 Author Report Share Posted February 12, 2011 the problem is a thread that is deliberatly to have a go at someone over something said in private. Why not take the issue there rather than here? Dragon no its not, its about how many people publicly behaved, and about the group mentality behind that Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TizzyGirl Posted February 12, 2011 Report Share Posted February 12, 2011 Actions cause reactions :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fireflies Posted February 12, 2011 Report Share Posted February 12, 2011 Oh god... Edit again. Still not worth it. Dragon Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fireflies Posted February 12, 2011 Report Share Posted February 12, 2011 I think I should rephrase that... ' Um never mind Michael Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bibiddi Posted February 12, 2011 Report Share Posted February 12, 2011 Roxy, I'll support you in this. Although I am probably thinking of a different conflict, but the same applies. At the moment, it does feel as is the forum is having difficulty with conflict, I see you mention gang mentality, and agree I have seen it too. I'm not sure what the solution is, but its worth thinking about what part each of us play in it, and what resolutions we are looking for. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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