Dibley Posted March 20, 2011 Report Share Posted March 20, 2011 This is all awful.. It's not fair to ban people for having an opinion. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Data Posted March 20, 2011 Report Share Posted March 20, 2011 I mean no disrespect to any member here by saying this, but.. then goes on to belittle and disrespect how people feel. I have got sucked into petty disputes and conflicts on this site myself. I've ended up having duvet-diving days over arguments, then been left feeling foolish and regretting that I got SO worked up over things that are - in the scheme of things - really not that important. I am trying to add some perspective, and I talk from personal experience here. This is all awful.. It's not fair to ban people for having an opinion. Joshua wouldn't ban anyone for having an opinion that is expressed within the rules. I have known several people who have been banned from this place, and its never been a case of being banned for respectfully expressing an opinion. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joshua Posted March 20, 2011 Report Share Posted March 20, 2011 Joshua wouldn't ban anyone for having an opinion that is expressed within the rules. I have known several people who have been banned from this place, and its never been a case of being banned for respectfully expressing an opinion. Integrity. Thanks Data. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joshua Posted March 20, 2011 Report Share Posted March 20, 2011 Geee, this is so...... tempting, dare I >_< Does Joshua's botty taste nice Data! Sorry sorry, couldn't help myself! Someone says something slightly supportive of me and they receive that response. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dibley Posted March 20, 2011 Report Share Posted March 20, 2011 I don't think that was anything bad of you Josh. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
guntarded Posted March 20, 2011 Report Share Posted March 20, 2011 I know people are angry at change, genuine anger at change - those with MH problems can face difficulties with it. Other people have welcomed the support system above; I like it. But when we discuss this with the removal of status updates thread - I really do miss it! I loved it. But it was some members that ruined it for us all; by posting things they knowingly knew was going against the rules, knew that people did not want to be triggered by SH posts and posts to cause distress...and yet some members continued to do so, despite ALL the vents; all the status updates requesting people stop triggering us....and yet it continued You reap what you sow. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dibley Posted March 20, 2011 Report Share Posted March 20, 2011 Could someone in authority please please please contact xclairex, she is texting me and I can't help her. I understand it is private, but I feel I have to do something. She cannot access her email or send in any of these ticket things. She wants to know what she can do for support now, how can she go on, how will she cope etc. Can someone please contact her. If you are not banning for others opinions then please contact her. This is really distressing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
yasontheborder Posted March 20, 2011 Report Share Posted March 20, 2011 What I want to know is why Joshua is so adamant as to not return the status updates, pleas can you explain? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bundy117 Posted March 20, 2011 Report Share Posted March 20, 2011 Thankyou Wade for best comment all day, you made me smile. So you know which comment. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
yasontheborder Posted March 20, 2011 Report Share Posted March 20, 2011 It seems this site has become all about the money.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CrippleAndStarfish Posted March 20, 2011 Report Share Posted March 20, 2011 ... I just don't understand how anyone expressing an opinion other than "the lack of status updates is shit and we hate it. [insert insult towards Josh here]" is ass-kissing. I don't cope well with changes, but I'm trying my best to not over-react. It feels a bit weird not having the status updates there on the main page, but I'm sure I will get used to it - afterall, they weren't here when I first joined, so it's just going to take a while to adjust to them not being there now. I think I could understand better if the forums had had some serious downtime while the recent changes had been made, or if there was an inability to post... But, it's something separate from the main page, hasn't affected people's ability to say "Woah, hold on a sec. I'm struggling with these changes - help me out please?". Instead, the focus seems to be on chucking daggers at Josh, when everyone could actually be spending their time supporting those who are struggling to adjust.... :blink: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Paul_c Posted March 20, 2011 Report Share Posted March 20, 2011 if i may interject and frankly i know its going to piss people the fuck off but frankly i dotn give a shit. huggy huggy isnt happening at the moment for me so deal with it. i have bene on a great many forums for a great many differnt thinsg for a long time for MH and normal things and i have a greater idea of how they run having done it myself for a while and got sick of childish fools tossing toys out of the pram right left and centre. . at NO point has the admin of any of them asked what a change should ammount to. its there call as it is theres. we USE is they OWN it. as such you play by there rules. if they wish to add.remove or change things it is there call end of story bitch and moaning just gets the admins backs up and they eventualy decide to fuck the forum of for a game of soilders and relax. resulting in mo more forum. joshua has created somewhere for people tog ain support, to help them improve. and gain information of his own back. i paid for a membersship o sue the chat function. this doesnt give me a share in the site wher ei can wave it around saying im not hapopy it just lets me access some aditional things. thats wheremy frankly miserly payment comes in. and thats where it ends. period. when people systematicaly abuse a facility be is posting, being abusive or using a system like the status updates to brealk the rules they are delt with if they didnt then this palce would be full of trihggering topics, spam and porn links. watching people isnult each other and be abusive through it was unsettling for me as a persona nd not being able to avoid trigger topics like im going to cut myself or your all a bunch of arses is a big damm deal when you think about it for 3 seconds beyond oh i cant update whatever pice of music i happen to be listening to. i come hear to gain support, information, and if i can i will try to help people not be have people SH tossed into my face when i am struggling with it mysel, silently to not trigger other poeple. i also dont come ehar to be involved in bulshit personal squables over a fucking bit of a forum and he said fucking she said. are we not adults? are we so incapable of functioning int he real world that civility has been totaly removed from our collective usage? . so josh, il say that you have done the right thing at the time to prevent harm occuring to the greater mass. and i hope the tyraid of abuse comes to an end soon when this slight shower in a shot glass blows itself out Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AndyL Posted March 20, 2011 Report Share Posted March 20, 2011 we are annoyed because Joshua deleted a feature that is used very much by many members of the site. and he did not once consider our feelings about it been deleted. This is where i am 'focusing my energy' Well I will state then, that your energy may be misdirected from another issue that you may not be fully aware of. I think you should bring this up in your next therapy session and ask the therapist why you're so mad. It's just an internet forum! The discussion you have may prove enlightening. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AndyL Posted March 20, 2011 Report Share Posted March 20, 2011 It seems this site has become all about the money.. That's a ridiculous statement, which the facts over time do not support. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
piuma Posted March 20, 2011 Report Share Posted March 20, 2011 Lots of people do not like change, however it will happen and will continue to be part of life. Responding in the manner some of you have today is NOT going to stop change happening, ust make it more difficult to process. I agree with Andy, talk about change in your therapy, what are you afraid of? maybe its something worth looking at. Change is uncomfortable but it doesnt have to mean the end of the world. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
toaster Posted March 20, 2011 Report Share Posted March 20, 2011 its not about being USED to change , its about how we manage it. i hate change, fucking depise it. cant make the world conform to me though. just because some may manage their feelings differently doesnt mean they arent affected by it - thats invalidation when thats suggested the status bar has gone. nothing we can do. im sure theres lots more we can worry about, like the reasons what brought us because we are ultimately here because we have some type of mental health problem. yet ur all focusing on a status bar that really isnt going to change the world or change us. well, it will change us if we let it. im not gonna let it change me. im gonne carry on with me life :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
toaster Posted March 20, 2011 Report Share Posted March 20, 2011 Lots of people do not like change, however it will happen and will continue to be part of life. Responding in the manner some of you have today is NOT going to stop change happening, ust make it more difficult to process. I agree with Andy, talk about change in your therapy, what are you afraid of? maybe its something worth looking at. Change is uncomfortable but it doesnt have to mean the end of the world. That is your opinion though.You might be used to change but some people are NOT. and that is YOUR opinion Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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