LadyMacbeth Posted May 24, 2005 Report Share Posted May 24, 2005 *Respect me. *Respect MY boundaries. *Listen to me do not disregard my feelings. *Do not emotionally or physically hurt me. *Do not lie to me. *If you are angry with me tell me do not yell and scream at me. *Do not assume you know me. *Do not make me feel like crap just because you are feeling bad about yourself. *Do not use me. *If I have something to say do not ignore me and talk over the top of me. *I am a compassionate and intelligent humen being so treat me as one. *Do not patronize me. *You can't make me feel worthless. *I have feelings. *Do not make yourself out to be the victim. Relationships are a two way street. *I will not cling onto the relationship *Do not judge me. *"Do not throw stones at glass houses." *Do not depend on me to fix your problems then drop me when you are okay. What you will receive from me if you comply with these terms. *Respect and a human being and with personal boundaries. *Loyalty and trust in a relationship. *I will treat you with the same respect you show me. *I iwll not invalidate your feelings. *I will listen to what you have to say. If you don't like it then leave my life. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lauren Posted May 24, 2005 Report Share Posted May 24, 2005 Good job em. Now the bit we all find hard,enforcing it....... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LadyMacbeth Posted May 24, 2005 Author Report Share Posted May 24, 2005 Young, Jeff. Reinventing Your Life. New York:Penguin Group, 1993. 105. (I quite him so much I know his publishing details by heart. lol) "Look at your current relationships. You cannot heal while your lifetrap is being reinforced. Starting from this moment, we do not want you to allow anyone to abuse you ever again. If your abuser is a partner or a friend, there is a small chance he or she will not change. You can give the person one chance. Stand up for your rights. Protect yourself. Stay assertive and controlled. Do not get sucked into denial. If your abuser will not change, you have to leave the relationship." Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LadyMacbeth Posted May 24, 2005 Author Report Share Posted May 24, 2005 Hmm..now I have to learn how to be assertive. :lol: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
debs Posted May 24, 2005 Report Share Posted May 24, 2005 good one emma should show my family that debs Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Katherine Posted May 24, 2005 Report Share Posted May 24, 2005 I am learning to say NO, and also Yes at times, to say what I want and don't want/like and don't like.... yesterday I convinced a cleaner at the station on my way to therapy to let me use the toilet even though she had just cleaned it and the *rule* was that noone should be allowed in when the floor is wet SO I TOLD HER that I had to go.... Takes practise, baby steps etc... love, Katie Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Claire Posted May 25, 2005 Report Share Posted May 25, 2005 :lol: Yeah!!!!! Too right!!!! :lol: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CathE Posted May 25, 2005 Report Share Posted May 25, 2005 DAMN STRAIGHT U TELL IT SISTA ((((Emma)))) printing that out Cath. x Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Janie Posted May 25, 2005 Report Share Posted May 25, 2005 well said Emma and as the others have said hard to maintain it but very true words ... thanks emma love Janie xxx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LadyMacbeth Posted May 27, 2005 Author Report Share Posted May 27, 2005 Something we can all focus on for ourselves. :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Precious Posted May 28, 2005 Report Share Posted May 28, 2005 Dont i deserve to be respected??? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LadyMacbeth Posted May 28, 2005 Author Report Share Posted May 28, 2005 We all deserve to be respected. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Precious Posted May 28, 2005 Report Share Posted May 28, 2005 with an exception of me..... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
debs Posted May 28, 2005 Report Share Posted May 28, 2005 no evan yoiu ashly Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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