toaster Posted February 15, 2012 Report Share Posted February 15, 2012 I am meant to be having therapy with my social worker - this is what I did with my previous social worker and the other social worker I was meant to have was going to do DBT with me...but she's gone off sick. This new social worker graduated like yesterday by the sounds of things - she doesn't even KNOW what DBT is, she asked me if it was 'worth looking up' She told me she has issues when she drinks She told me to focus on the positive - which I do but my issues aren't just going to 'go' because I focus on the positive! She told me, rather than thinking about it or maybe even talking about it, to write down what is in my head - apparently then, it'll be ok Oh, and at the end when I told her about my attachment issues and my search for a mother figure, she LAUGHED and said 'it's ok, you won't find that in me'. It wasn't funny. I then felt stupid and embarrassed. I UNDERSTAND that newbies have to start somewhere. But seriously? I can't go from having structured, constructive therapy to some woman who doesn't know her arse from her elbow. I have emailed Pie's social worker with my concerns. Don't really know what to do, other than what I have. I feel like a bitch for complaining. *discharges self* <_< Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lonelyheartemma Posted February 15, 2012 Report Share Posted February 15, 2012 I saw my new social worker today, it was the 2nd time i saw her but the 1st time she actually answered my question and told me what her job was. she's a trainee. shes not great but shes better than the one you saw! so i think totally yes, you did do the right thing. social workers probably do improve with experience but if they take on someone who has problems they arent really in a position to help with its not going to help her or you. the most important thing is your recovery and if you have concerns someone assined to you wont be able to help you recover you need to do something about it for your sake. you are the only person you need to consider. you don't need to worry about her. but like i said if a professional cant help you for whatever reason, maybe shes not experienced enough, maybe shes just the wrong person for you it might be better for her as well as for you if you dont continue to see her maybe Pie's social worker will suggest you stay with her for a few more sessions and see if things improve as you get to know each other but I still think it was worth contacting someone about it now. it can feel a bit like moaning but being stuck with someone who doesnt seem equipped to help you is unsettling and scary, by talking to Pies social worker you have a professional person kind of on your side who can advise you and hopefully make you feel less alone with the problem and more supported Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pepsimeg Posted February 15, 2012 Report Share Posted February 15, 2012 she sounded like my last cpn. absilutely no idea and make u feel discounted by laughing at u grrrrr think u right to email your concerns staying with someone whos got less knowledge than u can only do more harm than good Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Data Posted February 15, 2012 Report Share Posted February 15, 2012 I am meant to be having therapy with my social worker - this is what I did with my previous social worker and the other social worker I was meant to have was going to do DBT with me...but she's gone off sick. That is a shame . This new social worker graduated like yesterday by the sounds of things - she doesn't even KNOW what DBT is, she asked me if it was 'worth looking up' Well DBT is quite specialised and its not that established n the UK, so its perhaps not surprising that someone new hasn't heard of it? I am trying to be kind to your social worker here. She told me she has issues when she drinks She is trying to empathise with you by finding some common ground. However, the phrase "like the blind leading the blind" comes to mind! She told me to focus on the positive - which I do but my issues aren't just going to 'go' because I focus on the positive! She told me, rather than thinking about it or maybe even talking about it, to write down what is in my head - apparently then, it'll be ok Focussing on the positive is still sensible advice. Presumably she didn't claim that she could make your problems go away, positive thinking won't do that, but it might help nevertheless. I find writing down problems helps and maybe she is trying to help you by suggesting it? Oh, and at the end when I told her about my attachment issues and my search for a mother figure, she LAUGHED and said 'it's ok, you won't find that in me'. It wasn't funny. I then felt stupid and embarrassed. I think it was wrong of her to laugh at you. She should know that you are a very sensitive person and that ridicule does not help. I suggest that next time you see her, you tell her how it made you feel. I UNDERSTAND that newbies have to start somewhere. But seriously? I can't go from having structured, constructive therapy to some woman who doesn't know her arse from her elbow. I have emailed Pie's social worker with my concerns. Don't really know what to do, other than what I have. I feel like a bitch for complaining. *discharges self* You are not a bitch for complaining, its your right to express your opinions and complain. I think the thing you have to decide is whether maybe she has some new interesting approaches, being newly qualified, that might help you... or if she is just going to continue making you feel embarrased and angry. Only you can make that decision. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
toaster Posted February 15, 2012 Author Report Share Posted February 15, 2012 data, she did say that if I wrote the shit down that's in my head - an this is stuff from childhood, all that crap, Dylan stuff... - then I would feel better. If it was as easy as that then therapy would not be needed, we would all just use notebooks. Not having a go. I'm pissed off that the CMHT, who know me, have dumped me with this woman. She was unprofessional, insensitive and I do not feel safe allowing her into my world. I know you are trying to be 'kind' to her. But it's like assigning a bone specialist to someone with a heart problem. She may know a shit load about schizophrenia, for example, but she knows bugger all about BPD. Thanks for the reply, and thank you to others for your replies as well. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Data Posted February 15, 2012 Report Share Posted February 15, 2012 She was unprofessional, insensitive and I do not feel safe allowing her into my world. So your decision is made then. I am sorry your social worker has let you down . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dice Posted February 16, 2012 Report Share Posted February 16, 2012 Poppy Pop Tart not really got anything helpful to say like but she sounds like a right bitch!!! And saying if you write it all down in your head, You'll feel better, If that WAS the case... Why are we all not on cloud 9 singing come by here my Lord, Come by here o.O... Glad you emailed Pammy's SW and I hope she will got told about what she said and done and how wrong it was... And that they will try and find you another SW to see... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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