Maddison Posted September 6, 2012 Report Share Posted September 6, 2012 Christine I know we don't get a long so good but when you started a family I am guessing you had the best intent and were hoping that you could cope with every thing? That is the point I'm making. People with drink or drug addictions have kids thinking it will solve their problems and as you'll know it doesn't work that way. This isn't to do even with borderline, my point is about being in a good place or not. Some one says being borderline stopped me seeing my kids I disagree plenty with out borderline don't take responsibility and see their kids I don't think being borderline is the issue I think it's responsibility. Walker I'm not saying it's easy hunni. I've not met a parent with or without borderline that doesn't think it is the hardest and longest guilt trip. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Elke Posted September 8, 2012 Report Share Posted September 8, 2012 Sorry Siamblue but I've had a lot of criticism on this forum about my points of view. Messages saying I want to upset people and topics removed when they've been taken the wrong way then put back as people just didn't understand so they complained about me. I think this is a cool place but I have turned a little hard to what some people say here as I've had some criticism that if I took it in my heart I couldn't come back here. Ohoooo, I can relate to that! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
maddy harper Posted September 8, 2012 Report Share Posted September 8, 2012 my childhood wasnt easy having a mother who was prone to violence toards me and i think this is the rute cause for my bpd Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
maddy harper Posted September 8, 2012 Report Share Posted September 8, 2012 shes never taken responsability or said sorry for the things shes done to me Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
maddy harper Posted September 8, 2012 Report Share Posted September 8, 2012 and i dont think she ever will Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lucy Posted September 8, 2012 Report Share Posted September 8, 2012 if i screw up i apolgise i say what i did wasnt fair if ive been out of order with the kids, not always but deff in the past few years My mum doesnt think she did anything wrong and if she turned round tomorrow and said lets try again i would in a shot I dont want my kids to feel the way i do i may screw upi get it wrong but i love them i tell them i love them and i say when ive got it wrong Im the best i can be im a good mum Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maddison Posted September 8, 2012 Report Share Posted September 8, 2012 Elke we can't all get along with every one so I try not to take it to heart. Maddy my mom is the same she won't take responsibility. Lucy I'm with you 100% I screw up and I say sorry, I'm the best mom I can be. To read this topic for most of us it is hard as our parents didn't do right and we are trying to do right. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
siamblue Posted September 8, 2012 Report Share Posted September 8, 2012 When i get a few hours one day i will write out what happened too me,i blamed my mother all of my life for my dad not being there,now i know she did her best and tried to keep the family together,but as a young boy,i blamed her for dad not being there,this caused me all of my problems to this day,after my therapy last year and this year i realised who is to blame and i am so glad my father isnt alive today, When i said i left my children,i left the marital home and moved into my sisters house 3 miles away,i was still there providing financially and in person.it was having a stable home that scared me so much as i was trained when younger to move in a split second and run away. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
maddy harper Posted September 9, 2012 Report Share Posted September 9, 2012 i dont think having bpd makes people bad parents Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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