Endoftheroad Posted July 25, 2013 Report Share Posted July 25, 2013 I've attended a group the last 2 months in London arranged through the meetup website, but as only two of us turned up last week and the organiser has quit I think that's run its course! However, I do think such a group has merit as a way for those with BPD and related conditions to meet informally; I've met very few people with the dx in the real world, and not even in hospital. This was brought home to me on Sunday, as the woman I met was dxed years ago yet I was the first person she'd ever met who also has it! So I'd like to suggest we could run something through this site, if there's an appetite for it, maybe meeting in one of the Royal Parks where we could have relative privacy. No agendas or anything formal, and not group therapy either, more an informal way to come together and discuss whatever's on our minds, offer mutual support and hopefully create friendships. No matter how many people we might have in our lives, with the best will in the world only fellow borderlines can really understand what we go through day to day. If anyone is interested in the idea please let me know where you'd be coming from (to get an idea of best venue) and preferable days/times, either here or by PM if you prefer and we can try to arrange something soon Hugs to all Geoff Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kitsune Posted July 25, 2013 Report Share Posted July 25, 2013 I'd be coming from up north... that's feasable right? : p Think it's a great idea, may have to lay out some parameters, boundaries and agreements as well just so you're all supported and safe. Hope that you manage to set one up as it'd be great to have that support network. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Endoftheroad Posted July 25, 2013 Author Report Share Posted July 25, 2013 I thought Limbo was dahn sarf, cos that's where I am right now! Had a couple of ppl express interest already What sort of perimeters do you have in mind Kitsune? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kitsune Posted July 25, 2013 Report Share Posted July 25, 2013 hehe! That's good that people are interested already! Perimeter wise it'd be similar terms and conditions of the group that they use for groups through meetup. Kind of like regulations as to what's acceptable behaviour etc. It's just to try and keep the group members safe in a way, like the rules you get with this forum. Not sure about the ins and outs though! Am a bit brain foggy at the moment. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Endoftheroad Posted July 25, 2013 Author Report Share Posted July 25, 2013 Yes that sounds ideal. The only thing I'll insist upon is that people have to be registered users here (was amazed with the other group that not one of them came here!) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gandalftheginge Posted July 25, 2013 Report Share Posted July 25, 2013 Id be interested if you'd accept me. Weekends would be best and I'd be coming from Oxford. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Endoftheroad Posted July 25, 2013 Author Report Share Posted July 25, 2013 Ofc you'd be accepted! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lonelyspider Posted July 26, 2013 Report Share Posted July 26, 2013 I really want to be part of this but I am afraid to meet people I do not know. Pathetic, I know. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gandalftheginge Posted July 26, 2013 Report Share Posted July 26, 2013 I know that feeling I can assure you I'm totally harmless and silly. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lonelyspider Posted July 26, 2013 Report Share Posted July 26, 2013 Lol thanks Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Endoftheroad Posted July 26, 2013 Author Report Share Posted July 26, 2013 That's why we would meet in public - aside from meeting in Trafalgar Square one of the London parks couldn't be more public! And yes, many of us have issues with paranoia, but we're only a threat to ourselves, not to others. One of my delusions is that The Truman Show is real and is based on me! I've learned to live with it :D Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gandalftheginge Posted July 26, 2013 Report Share Posted July 26, 2013 What a great film! That must be hard to live with I think all of us are big softies really. I'm basically a ginger panda. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mousie Posted July 26, 2013 Report Share Posted July 26, 2013 i'm a meetup group member too! shame its folding but im very grateful for its organiser to have got it going im in east london and quite flexible about timings as for boundaries, i'd suggest that... - each person take responsibility for their own needs so that folks can meet on an equal basis (as the urge to rescue can be very powerful), that - if abusive behaviour happens that its addressed so that everyone feels safe and ideally, if anyone feels unsafe, to share it with someone so that the group can collectively support eachother and hold boundaries (as bpd folks can interpret things as shaming, rejecting etc and these things can be recognised rather than punished) - boundaries are agreed by attendance, ie that if you turn up, you're committing to being respectful to others and supporting the boundaries a few days back i asked Lily one of the mods here if it was ok to start this group on this board and she said yes, its ok so its all good she also said that its good if meetings are in a public place, that its important to check if anyone attending has anything other than a personal support interest. Lily is a really kind and warm person if you wana ask her anything Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gandalftheginge Posted July 26, 2013 Report Share Posted July 26, 2013 I'd like to meet others who may have similar issues, learn from their experiences, share mine and make some friends, is that safe? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Endoftheroad Posted July 26, 2013 Author Report Share Posted July 26, 2013 That's what it's all about, ginger panda Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mousie Posted July 26, 2013 Report Share Posted July 26, 2013 i reckon that's what its all about and very healthy too gandalftheginge Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gandalftheginge Posted July 26, 2013 Report Share Posted July 26, 2013 I really could do with meeting others, my social skills feel awful! :'( Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lonelyspider Posted July 26, 2013 Report Share Posted July 26, 2013 Mine are awful too. I just wish there was a way to get to know people a bit before meeting up. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gandalftheginge Posted July 26, 2013 Report Share Posted July 26, 2013 Lots of chatting here? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lonelyspider Posted July 26, 2013 Report Share Posted July 26, 2013 That could be an idea. Are you okay in groups? I prefer one on one but I know that is not possible. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
artemis84 Posted July 26, 2013 Report Share Posted July 26, 2013 One of my delusions is that The Truman Show is real and is based on me! I've learned to live with it Wow, me too!! I have thought that so many times! Roads only get busy as I approach looking to cross them.....and so many more things! Amazing to find someone else as 'crazy' as me! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Endoftheroad Posted July 26, 2013 Author Report Share Posted July 26, 2013 I once got mobbed by a load of kids at Copenhagen airport! Maybe I looked like someone idk, but they clearly thought they knew me. Nearly missed my plane! Loads of other things, just loads. Apologies to anyone watching this week though, been relatively uneventful for me :P Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gandalftheginge Posted July 26, 2013 Report Share Posted July 26, 2013 I'm okay at chatting in groups or one on one, but I can be a bit shy or awkward. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Endoftheroad Posted July 26, 2013 Author Report Share Posted July 26, 2013 That's the beauty of such a group, as we'd all be in the same boat, there is bound to be a lot of mutual feelings, understanding and experiences. Therefore any social awkwardness would soon evaporate :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gandalftheginge Posted July 26, 2013 Report Share Posted July 26, 2013 That's good to know. I'm feeling quite excited about this. :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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