Eagleheart Posted November 4, 2014 Report Share Posted November 4, 2014 It is undoubtedly un-realistic to expect a miracle recovery but i have found something that gives temporary relief. When i feel myself slipping into the black pit,i try to put my full attention onto something i find beautiful or calming. For me, it is my cats or the birds on the feeders in my garden.Whatever makes you feel a bit fuzzy inside.A beautiful ornament,a flower - it's your choice. I then concentrate & focus intently on it.But i can only do this for 10-20 seconds at a time.Which may sound ridiculous.But it gives my brain a short breather & actually,it is enough to make a small but significant difference.With practice,i hope i can lengthen those time-out's so that eventually,i could maybe give myself a 5 minute break from the chaos that is my mind. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lonelyheartemma Posted November 4, 2014 Report Share Posted November 4, 2014 I'm glad you're able to do this Eagleheart. 10-20 seconds doesn't sound ridiculous at all. Even if you are looking at the most beautiful thing in the world it is still a physical and mental effort to keep looking and keep focusing. And even 10 seconds of escape is so worth having. Thank you for sharing this. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Br0kenW1ngs Posted November 4, 2014 Report Share Posted November 4, 2014 Thanks for that Eagleheart, I think it's commendable that you are able to do this at all. I know what the chaos feels like. Have you had any DBT? It's a very DBT concept, taking a break...... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eagleheart Posted November 4, 2014 Author Report Share Posted November 4, 2014 No,i've not had dbt. I've had very little help tbh. I've had to be my own therapist & had to provide my own care. And i'm still here,so i must be doing ok! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Br0kenW1ngs Posted November 4, 2014 Report Share Posted November 4, 2014 Well I think you deserve a medal. I know how difficult it can be, and I honestly don't know how I got through some times....and that was with help. I am sorry you have no received the support you need. I notice your location is the Scottish Highlands, I have no experience of the support available in Scotland, or of how the system works for you. Have you read any work on DBT? I'm not trying to preach, but I know it is the recognised therapy for BPD, and could more than likely be useful to a great number of other people with a lack of emotional coping skills. I found it useful. Not at the time I might add, but later. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eagleheart Posted November 5, 2014 Author Report Share Posted November 5, 2014 Sunlight is shimmering across my garden as leaves flutter gently in the breeze and birds flitter round the feeders. I slow my breathing down and let the beauty of nature calm me. I am so lucky to live where i do. That was definitely a 20 second time out. LUSH.x Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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