Bryan Posted October 18, 2005 Report Share Posted October 18, 2005 I'm gonna be painfully honest here. I am jealous that more guys are coming on the sight and posting. I know that's not right. But I've always had a problem with jealousy and envy. I feel like I ought to have all of the attention and if someone new comes along that I'm being tossed aside.Why do I have such a problem with this? It's not like I was abandoned as a child. Both my parents are still married. But I have such a jealousy problem.No offense to the new guys, it's not your problem, it's mine.Bryan Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Betsy Posted October 18, 2005 Report Share Posted October 18, 2005 abandonment can be more than the physical leaving. abandonment can be loss of emotional support or love.bets Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
verbena Posted October 18, 2005 Report Share Posted October 18, 2005 Have you communicated with any of them yet? It might takesome of the hurt away if you did. If you knew them as yourfriends and not just as male intruders. But I can see howyou'd feel that way. I don't think it's strange or anything. XXXAnn Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bryan Posted October 18, 2005 Author Report Share Posted October 18, 2005 Yeah, I'm trying to do that Ann. It just bothers me that it bothers me...if that makes any sense. I know it's wrong to feel that way...so why do I?I guess I'm just trying to figure out where that comes from. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
verbena Posted October 18, 2005 Report Share Posted October 18, 2005 Hmmmm. I think it's OK to try to figureout where it comes from, but I think it'snot helpful to think you're wrong to feel that way.It's the way you feel. Why does it have to be right or wrong? It's the way you feel. Figureout how you're going to get along with it.XXXAnn Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chloeJ1980 Posted October 18, 2005 Report Share Posted October 18, 2005 my parents are still married to but i have a major jealous streak, which turns nasty alot of the time!Do you have brothers or sisters? I have 2 sisters.I have a major fear of abandonment or losing attention from othersmystery! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lauren Posted October 18, 2005 Report Share Posted October 18, 2005 Hi Bry,You know right now im rather jelous of people/groups here.I hate to admit it but I am.It is a cycle I repeat from time to time.Why?.Feeling like I have 'earned' friends/understanding here. Jelous of those that seem to make friends so easily where as I dont.Not being able to figure out why that is.I dont know.But its there.I dont like it.Its not healthy.ugghhhhh good on ya for bringing it up!xx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
paddypotty Posted October 18, 2005 Report Share Posted October 18, 2005 Glad you said that Lauren,feel exactly the same,on the outside looking in,thinking I only have aquaintances here rather than friends,ah shit just a bad day.Patricia Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lauren Posted October 18, 2005 Report Share Posted October 18, 2005 Am your friend.Least I hope.Tues eve bestsme xx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
paddypotty Posted October 18, 2005 Report Share Posted October 18, 2005 Still waiting on Josh to show us 9and a little dirty bits weekend,must put a reminder on notice board.Thanks for saying that Lauren,god I feel such a twat.Patricia Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cactus Posted October 18, 2005 Report Share Posted October 18, 2005 i feel like have spent most of my life being the odd one out and always looking on as others seem to be able to make friends so easy.also think that people find my problems something to have good laugh bout or just think pathetic cow serves her right.just realised writing this thats why i never get half as many replies as rest of members Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
verbena Posted October 18, 2005 Report Share Posted October 18, 2005 Whenever I come on the first thing I do is look at my past posts, and see what responses came after mine. Many, many times mine is the last post in the thread!!! I'm not kidding. So, two things. I know how you guys feel, and maybe we are not seeing this rightly.XXXAnn Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lauren Posted October 18, 2005 Report Share Posted October 18, 2005 Think most of us feel the same.Re write the 'law' book......! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
paddypotty Posted October 18, 2005 Report Share Posted October 18, 2005 Clare,you are not a pathetic cow,you are one of the nicest people here and your problems are as valid as any one elses,I look forward to your posts.And yes Im jealous of the cameradie between you and Toon,Bryan and Lauren,always feel as if Im trying too hard.Guess this bpd traits all over again.Patricia Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
paddypotty Posted October 18, 2005 Report Share Posted October 18, 2005 Ditto Verb and if no one has replied or not many people I feel hurt,like a child in the playground who is always picked last.Patricia Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cactus Posted October 18, 2005 Report Share Posted October 18, 2005 cant let you all be last to post.your all great. cheered up bit after tripping into buggy and then burning another saucepan i put on gas with no milk in then wondered why kitchen smelt.thank allah that the 16 year old who just given birth to triplets dont belong to us P (front page tomorrows sun paper) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
paddypotty Posted October 18, 2005 Report Share Posted October 18, 2005 Bloody hell,triplets!Would definately be in funny farm,thank God constantly crying baby acts as a great contraceptive.Glad you have cheered up even if saucepan is now in saucepan heaven.See you tomorrow.Patricia Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
verbena Posted October 18, 2005 Report Share Posted October 18, 2005 Night Patricia. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cactus Posted October 18, 2005 Report Share Posted October 18, 2005 night Patricia.perhaps if you say Grant 3 times before getting into bed you will spend night dreaming of him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lauren Posted October 18, 2005 Report Share Posted October 18, 2005 Me?They all hate me.Tolerated.lol,think we are all fucked on this. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cactus Posted October 18, 2005 Report Share Posted October 18, 2005 i dont hate you or anyone else here.apart from myself, (hoping that will pass) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
undead66 Posted October 18, 2005 Report Share Posted October 18, 2005 the whole jealousy thing does suck.i compare myself to everyone. one friend of mine is doing so well right now, and i'm happy for him, but it makes me so sad. i wanted to be doing better. and i'll probably never get to his level now because i'm starting to realize that i'm probably not going to be able to hold down a stressful job...and it's totally irrational, but it's totally real.and then you get into the question of: does it even make sense to fight it? should you tell yourself "it doesn't matter if this person makes more money than you," when that's sort of obvious... or, do you tell yourself something else deluded to make the feeling go away ("at least I wasn't injured in a car accident like X. That person has it really bad.")i also constantly compare myself to other people. ("That person looks better than me, but 3 years ago I would have looked better.") Or, that person is only 2 years older than me and there is no way I'll ever be able to do 1/100th as well as they did. How many people they slept with versus how many people I slept with, how many drugs I took versus how many they took... the whole thing is sick, but it's not my fault.It just fucking sucks. Do you fight it or ride it out?There's probably some really weird explanation. Like some emotional area of our brains isn't working, and so the result is we constantly feel like we've just been insulted... so our brain searches for a way to deal with / explain the strange sensation.This reminds me of an episode of the Simpsons where Homer and Marge are at a research facility and Homer says, "I think your Octoparrot would beg to differ..." Um, nevermind. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
budgie Posted October 19, 2005 Report Share Posted October 19, 2005 bryi always feel the same too...... i know it when i am not thinking/acting rationale, it is against all reasoning but i jus cant help it, or it is extremely difficult to control the "wayward" feelings. I hated such times, i feel so torn trg to reconcile it.... sometimes, i had to jus accept it bry, i m never perfect, never will be perfect, so what if u get jealous bry, at least u r so good enuf to recog it! that already says a LOT. come on, dont be so hard on yaself, i accept ya jealousy.:) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
paddypotty Posted October 19, 2005 Report Share Posted October 19, 2005 think we all should have a corny group hug.Thanks for bringing this up Bryan,it took a lot of courage.Patricia Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
caz Posted October 19, 2005 Report Share Posted October 19, 2005 Just wanted to add that I'M THE OUTSIDER around here. How weird anyone else should want to claim the territory. Why would you-its so lonely. It has always been this way for me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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